As a non-custodial dad, I seize any chance to see my children even if the mom does not give me advance warning, more to her convenience. I do have regular nights/days I see them but when there is "extra" time, I take it.
I have had that happen to me when I had dates. I was 10 min away from meeting my date when my daughter called, apologizing profusely, telling me that her concert was in 1/2 hr. I called my date, apologize profusely to her, turned around and saw her.
He COULD be giving you a story. For me, I take people at face value until they establish a track record of lying.
BTW, I got two email responses from a spiritual singles website. They expressed interest in getting to know me, etc. I responded immediately back.. nothing back. I waited a couple of days, sharing a bit more about me and asking how they were.. nothing back. I figured for some people that (1) they don't check email too often (2) life gets busy and all of sudden they don't have time/energy to get back to me or (3) they lost interest. Online .. who the heck knows??? I learn to let go and move on.
There is a saying that expectations are resentments waiting to happen.
I find that going into my head and create all types of scenarios that may or may not be true does not really work for me. If I need clarification then I directly ask for it. I don't like to read in between the lines or assume anything that is important to me.
I work on making a practice to know what I am feeling and communicate that (without blame). If I want something then I request it in clear, specific language and don't make the other person guess what I want.
And where do you live?? Because if it's west ohio or east Indiana, game on!!! ;)
I completely agree with your method of just asking when I'm not sure about a situation and expressing myself clearly and concisely.... sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't!
I also believe each person if responsible for their own feelings.... even to the point of teaching my daughters how to respectfully and assertively express their feelings so they grow up with that tool in place.
Anyway, such a breath of fresh air to see a man express this mature attitude... I'm sure there are others out there and I will continue the search.
Where do I live? hmmmm... Portland, Oregon but then again why am I on "Online Dating?" LOL...
Interesting that you mentioned Indiana since the people I attract in my life that have an impact originate from there. My most intimate relationship in my entire life was with a woman from Elkhart. My best spiritual teacher-friend was from the same neighborhood as my lover... and they did not know that and they both live in Portland.
As a non-custodial dad, I seize any chance to see my children even if the mom does not give me advance warning, more to her convenience. I do have regular nights/days I see them but when there is "extra" time, I take it.
I have had that happen to me when I had dates. I was 10 min away from meeting my date when my daughter called, apologizing profusely, telling me that her concert was in 1/2 hr. I called my date, apologize profusely to her, turned around and saw her.
He COULD be giving you a story. For me, I take people at face value until they establish a track record of lying.
BTW, I got two email responses from a spiritual singles website. They expressed interest in getting to know me, etc. I responded immediately back.. nothing back. I waited a couple of days, sharing a bit more about me and asking how they were.. nothing back. I figured for some people that (1) they don't check email too often (2) life gets busy and all of sudden they don't have time/energy to get back to me or (3) they lost interest. Online .. who the heck knows??? I learn to let go and move on.
There is a saying that expectations are resentments waiting to happen.
Mark
Edited 5/27/2006 6:07 am ET by ising101
I find that going into my head and create all types of scenarios that may or may not be true does not really work for me. If I need clarification then I directly ask for it. I don't like to read in between the lines or assume anything that is important to me.
I work on making a practice to know what I am feeling and communicate that (without blame). If I want something then I request it in clear, specific language and don't make the other person guess what I want.
Let me know what you do.
Best,
Mark
And where do you live?? Because if it's west ohio or east Indiana, game on!!! ;)
I completely agree with your method of just asking when I'm not sure about a situation and expressing myself clearly and concisely.... sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't!
I also believe each person if responsible for their own feelings.... even to the point of teaching my daughters how to respectfully and assertively express their feelings so they grow up with that tool in place.
Anyway, such a breath of fresh air to see a man express this mature attitude... I'm sure there are others out there and I will continue the search.
Where do I live? hmmmm... Portland, Oregon but then again why am I on "Online Dating?" LOL...
Interesting that you mentioned Indiana since the people I attract in my life that have an impact originate from there. My most intimate relationship in my entire life was with a woman from Elkhart. My best spiritual teacher-friend was from the same neighborhood as my lover... and they did not know that and they both live in Portland.
Hey I'm still single *wink*
Mark
Edited 5/27/2006 6:06 am ET by ising101