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| Thu, 10-27-2005 - 11:04pm |
O.k., I finally have some slightly weird OLD "experiences" to share. I got to the open communication stage with this guy on eHarmony. First e-mail, general chit chat and then gives me his number. I respond and ask about why he doesn't ahve aphote. I ask since he can see mine do I get so see his (PHOTOS everybody :) ) No response from him and he moved through the previous stages quickly. Last night I got the closed ended questions (first stage for anyone not familiar with eharmony) from a guy. I answered him. Tonight he closes me saying he's pursing another relationship. I wasn't really that interested anyway, but how do you send someone questions one night and the next be pursuing another relationship? Weird.

Why are those weird? Sound like typical OLD stories (esp from eHarmony) to me! :-) First, there are many people that don't have photos and gloss over that or ignore your requests for them. He might ghost on you completely here. If he does email back and doesn't send any photos, I would politely ask once more and if he doesn't provide any, put him on hold until he does or even close communication. It's only fair that you share photos.
As for the second case, he may have been doing some blanket closing on eH. I know I use the generic reason "I want to pursue other matches..." or whatever. He might have gone out once or twice with someone and decided that he was going to close communication with other people. Or maybe it is his generic excuse that he uses. At least he didn't use the stupid "I don't feel any chemistry" when he hasn't even met you or the hurtful "Based on statements in their profile, I am not interested in pursuing this match."
Probably has something to do with the same reason he doesn't have a photo, I would say. I hate to sound shallow, but he probably isn't very attractive or doesn't feel very attractive. I find that if I ask a man for his pic and he doesn't send it, I don't hear from him again. I myself hated to post my pic, though it is now posted. I hated my pics. But I feel better now that I have lost weight.
Sara
Edited 10/29/2005 5:14 am ET by saralm