Success Stories

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Tue, 03-14-2006 - 8:44pm

Just to keep some balance on the board, would those of you who have Online Dating success stories be so kind as to share them?


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Tue, 03-14-2006 - 11:18pm

I can't really call this a success story yet, but I can say that my situation has given me some hope in this crazy world of OLD, or just dating in general!
As I posted, I met a guy the first day I posted a profile on Plentyoffish.com, after reading about it here. We went on our first date the day after we met, and have talked on the phone for hours every day since. Normally I would say that this is probably not such a good thing, but in this situation I'm just going to let myself enjoy it because it's been a very long time since I've met someone that I just instantly connected with and was able to talk with for hours like this. I have had the thought cross my mind that there has to be something wrong with him in order for him to be single (Bad, I know, but after some of the madness I've been through on OLD I can't help myself), but I am doing what I can to just enjoy the moment and just keep getting to know him.

It's kind of funny how everything has just fallen into place since I've been posting on this board, and it's almost too much of a coincidence that I read about that website here and then got a date with a guy that seems very genuine the next day!

Thanks everyone for all of your advice! I hope to see some longer term success stories on here to encourage everyone who feels a little fatigued by their experiences. I know I have been there many times, but persistance does pay!

M


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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 12:31am

I can't say it is a complete success yet...until there is an engagement or wedding papers signed.

I visit here occasionally to see how all is going in the OLD world. I met my BF two years ago Janurary after being on Match for 3 weeks. And I do have to say that the first year was very tough. We had lots of ups and downs...OLD adds a lot of different dimensions to the dating world that I had absolutely no idea about. Plenty of people here told me to get rid of him. And I did...he just never went away for very long.

We met through match during their trail of speed matching. He wasn't a member so i had no idea of what he looked like. Within our 4 minute conversation he did forward me a picture and I was pleasently suprised. The process was nice because match put us togehter instead of one person pursuing the other.

The last year has been really wonderful. I did leave one other time right after being together for 2 years...figured he should know what he wanted by then. Again, he did come back with talks of plans for the future. So, we will see. We do have a wonderful connection and we are so similar to each other in many ways. Actually, we are the mirror image of each other. So, I have really learned a lot about myself in this process.

I know if I ever did it again (and can you believe I sometimes miss the excitment of it all) I would do it completely differently. I wouldn't get seriously attached to someone earlier than 6 months into the relationship. My BF was a completely different person at 6 months, a year, 18 months and 2 years. Fortuantley the changes have all been for the better!

Like I said there were a lot of ups and downs...with the grass is greener...or looking for the BBD (for both of us). You can't take this process personally, otherwise you will drive yourself mad. Enjoy the process. If you are attracted to a certain of person try figuring out why you like them, instead of thinking why do these freaks find me.

We all have our issues, especially when it comes to relationships. As I said, we were the mirror image of each other. So I really had to look at myself and ask "What am I doing?"

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:06am

I've got one.

I met my current steady in December of 2002. It was turbulent at first: he was looking for another job, I was trying desperately to get my life in order, so we were just friends. He found a job, moved to my city, I got my life in working shape, we got together and we're living together now. The other night he mentioned the "M" word (marriage), and I'm not sure I'm ready for that step yet but we'll see.

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Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:16am

At the risk of sounding premature here, I have been dating Jeff for about 7 weeks and can say that things are still really going really well between us. There are some "sparks" but not huge ones like I had for some guys in the past (who didn't return those sparks apparently). He is stable, has a good job, and I've met almost all of his family members, and he has met my Mom and sister. He treats me really well and also lives in the same town that I live in. There is also mutual attraction physically, which is sometimes hard to find.

I started with OLD at the beginning of May last year. I had several one-time dates or dating situations that only lasted a few weeks. I was interested in all of the men that I had met or dated (with the exception of one) during my time on 2 different dating sites. I've now hidden my profiles on both sites and Jeff told me he had deleted his on both of them. Neither of us are looking to meet anyone else, and I can honestly say that is a great feeling. Now, I will admit that I do not believe that Jeff is my soulmate. I think that term sometimes gets overused a bit, but I have met men in my past that I felt a very strong connection to (2 that I thought could have been soulmates) but did not pan out either. By the way, neither of those were from online. I had met them both through work.

I care about Jeff a lot--I do not think we're to the real love stage yet, but I hope it happens. There are more pluses than minuses with him, and I think sometimes you have to look at it that way in order to appreciate what you have. Every relationship has pitfalls and oftentimes huge sparks in the beginning don't guarantee a long term relationship later. For the time being, I am happy and content and hope it continues for a long time to come.

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:22am

I've already shared my success story with you guys a week or so ago, so I am quite sure you guys don't want to read it again :)

Cheryl

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Registered: 10-27-2003
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 2:04pm

After doing OLD for 4 years I have now been in an exclusive relationship with Rick for 5 1/2 months, and things are going great! Our relationship is progressing at a nice steady pace that seems to suit us both very well.

A couple of weeks ago he mentioned marriage as in, "if we get married, what kind of changes would you want to make to this house (referring to his)?". The word marriage had never come up between us before so naturally I was taken aback. But, since I'm not ready to talk about marriage yet (maybe around 8-12 mos), I bypassed the "M" word and just answered his question directly.

At this point I do know that I am in love him and want to be with him and it's nice to know that he's thinking down the road and that it includes me. I love how things are right now and I just want to enjoy it and let things progress naturally as they will.

So for now, I consider mine a success, and am hoping it continues for a long long time to come.

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Registered: 02-09-2006
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:16pm

Although I don't have one of my own, I can think of a few in the past 5 years:

Pkat met Michael on a Christian dating site - they are now married with at least one child
Bratgirl and Islefan met on GT chat and are now married with one child and one on the way
Truewild
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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:24pm

I'd been online dating for 1 year and 4 months when I met my guy. It will be 1 year in April and we are talking marriage. It will probably be sometime next year. No ring (so I have to wait on that)yet.

He is everything I hoped for and much more. Good things can happen online!!

Claribeth

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Wed, 03-15-2006 - 11:06pm

Met my guy on Match -- going on 8 mths.. we are very serious and def want to spend our lives together!!

I know of another success story- cupcake chic who is engaged

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Thu, 03-16-2006 - 9:09am

I want to add my success story here...

Eric and I met on this board's chat coming up on seven months ago, I'm now house hunting to live close to him so we can be together as much as possible. I can't see being with anyone else - EVER, he's just so very perfect for me. While this is not the typical OLD route, it worked for us and many of you were right there witnessing it ;).

Keep your eyes open, keep your mind open and don't be afraid to break the rules everyone!

Melanie

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