Suggestions for how to handle this?

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Suggestions for how to handle this?
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Sun, 01-01-2006 - 4:09pm

I posted in the NYE thread about this guy I went out with last night...all told we've had about 8-9 dates since we met.

I *like* him but he's got one quality in particular I don't know if I can deal with...and that is that he talks about himself practically non-stop! It's really driving me crazy. He'll ask me a question, and I'll start to respond, and then he's off about himself again. Like last night we were talking about our families, and I said something about my father dying when I was in high school, and he's like, ummm-hmmm, so my father was this, that and the other thing. I'm like, WTH???

The thing is, he's very gentlemanly and considerate, in other respects. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I don't think this will change unless I point it out (and even then who knows if it would plus of course it would hurt his feelings). So do I just stop dating him, or at least say something first and see if he can modify his behavior? If the latter, what do I say?

Sheri

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 8:31pm
Yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!!! /me dances around like Kermit the Frog... yayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy! LOL People have asked for you, so I'm glad you'll be there... No leaving early either miss!
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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 10:24pm

Hi Sheri,

This thread has really interested me because I've come across guys like this...and I admit I've done this myself, but for me it's usually nervous talk on a first meet situation. I've been trying to come up with a tactful and effective way to bring this up and then I read Sposabella's suggestion and I think it's a good one: <>

I'd definitely say something first before giving him the heave-ho because he may not really be aware of it. See how he responds and then go from there. If he takes offense then give him the heave.

Good Luck!
Michele

Oh btw...I'm glad to hear that the fling called;-D

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Wed, 01-04-2006 - 5:59pm

I had a lovely dinner and evening with Fling Guy...it was SO nice to have an actual two-sided conversation where he was actually listening to me and offering feedback and empathy. Sigh. I'm sorry to see him go...but that's life.

Anyway...I will give something along these lines a try with the other guy. We're going out again on Saturday.

Sheri

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