Taking Down the Ad

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-14-2003
Taking Down the Ad
Mon, 08-25-2003 - 10:04pm
I am curious whether anyone thinks that there are any rules on taking down the ad etc.

My situation is that I am currently corresponding with several guys-- 3 on an almost daily basis. (I know a lot of people on this Board are completely against the email thing carrying on for too long, but it has really worked for me-- I am a single Mom and I like having numerous get-to-know you opportunities before I have to arrange a babysitter etc.)

Anyhow-- I have gone out with this one guy only a handful of times over a several month period (but we have corresponded and shared a lot via email). Recently, we had more of a "real" discussion about trying to get to know each other and we are getting together later this week. Fine. BUT, now I have seen that he has taken down his ad and I am panicky. He seems like a really nice guy, but I am NOWHERE near that point. Do I address? What if he brings it up?


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-20-2003
Tue, 08-26-2003 - 5:47am
What I have understand is that you have seen that he has taken down his ad not that he told you he did, right? So if it is like that I don't think you have to bring that topic up. If he feels like putting down his ad at this point okay, that must not mean the same for you.

If he starts talking to you about that and somehow expects you to do the same then you can give him your point of view. But until then, just go on the way it feels best to you and goes best with your personal needs.

Wish you luck and keep us posted!


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2003
Tue, 08-26-2003 - 9:02am
If you are not ready to take your ad down, then dont. If he asks, then you should tell him you are not to a point where you want to be exclusive. If he cannot except it, then he is not the guy for you. It has to be mutal for you two to pursue things in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with waiting it out and seeing where things go, but keeping options open. You should not have to explain yourself to any man for any reason.

That is just my two cents.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 08-26-2003 - 4:45pm
I agree with the other two posters: no need to bring it up, and if he does, let him know that you're not quite ready to move to exclusivity.