Taking down my profile while seeing him?
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| Sun, 12-18-2005 - 3:53am |
this is not about him.
I m actively looking for a job. I need to move desperately and I really hate my job.
I felt it is pathetic that I m looking for both BF and a job at the same time so I decided to take down my profile.
Now there is one guy I met online and really liked. He is still on the site obviously. and I m sure he will check for me one day and wont find me. Would that be misinterpreted by him? We meet every now and then (since he travels a lot - 3/4 of his time) so when we meet we have a lot of fun and spend 5-6 hours together and sometimes stays over.
Should I tell him I deleted my profile because I m busy looking for a job? I dont want him to think I met someone else nor that I m head over heel in love with him! I feel it is better if I say it casually in a conversation...
Julia

Agree.
If he does ask just say you were overwhelmed with mail and you can't correspond with all the men writing you and look for a job full time. This way it lets him know you do have "other suiters" after you so he doesn't take you for granted too early on thinking he's the only guy you're dating, wink!
I agree with what Vexer just said (scary how much we're agreeing nowadays). :)
Annie
But it's not a lie. She took it down because she doesn't have the "time" to write back these guys or search for other dates and wants to focus on her job search. She seemed concerned he would think he took it down for just him when that's not it at all...nothing wrong with him not knowing either way if she has other guys in the pipeline.
Also adding it is just a suggestion - she should do what makes her feel comfortable. She asked for ideas of what to say if asked and this is one way - the others are great too.
Good luck with the job search to the OP!!!!
Peanut
Edited 12/18/2005 1:49 pm ET by small_peanut2005
As I said it was just a suggestion, not a lie as she took it down as she didn't have time to search...but your idea sounds good too. I only suggested that because she seemed concerned he would think he's the only guy she's dating hence why she took it down. But the more I think about it you're probably right; stick to the facts---
SP
She's had other guys write her I would imagine like most of us we do get a lot of mail, now whether she chooses to "write them back" it's her call. But I see what you mean, just playing devil's advocate and you're right she should stick to the facts - I see what you're saying - she just seemed so concerned he might think she took it down for him.
I don't know her story, haven't followed so as far as her wanting to be exclusive I can't comment on that.
Good thread though!!!
SP