A Tale of Two OLDs

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Registered: 06-11-2005
A Tale of Two OLDs
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Sat, 06-11-2005 - 8:57pm

First of all, I am a newbie to OLD. A friend suggested that it would be a good thing for me to do. This is the situation. I have had contact from two OLDs, the first OLD and I had our first meet within the first 3 days, and we usually have daily or almost daily contact either by email or by phone or both. Our first meet was very good. We met at a coffee shop, and talked almost non-stop for about 2 hours. It was all surface stuff, but the conversation was good between us. And we have a lot of things in common. The 2nd OLD is the question. We have not met yet, and they are also new to OLD. Eventhough they say that they are on break from taking college courses for the summer,I rarely hear from them by email, and have yet to have our first meet, which will be in a few days. When I do hear from them, the answers to the questions that I ask are vague. Meantime, the 1st OLD and I are about to do a 2nd meet in the next couple of days. My question is this: Is it an issue of the 2nd OLD being new to the whole concept the reason for their lack of contact, or am I reading this all wrong?

Any input from the group is appreciated.

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Registered: 06-11-2005
In reply to: bba56
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 7:36am
Am having 2nd Meets with both OLDs this weekend. OLD 2 is for lunch today, and OLD 1 is for lunch and the local Pride activity on Saturday afternoon. However, I might just come in contact with OLD 2 later on in the day on Saturday. Wish me luck.
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Registered: 06-01-2005
In reply to: bba56
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 8:58am

Hello Bba56-


Welcome to the board!

CL-Truewild1969

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Registered: 06-11-2005
In reply to: bba56
Sun, 07-03-2005 - 4:36pm

Its been a while since I've had time to post. It seems like good old OLD number 2 has ghosted. And the thing about it, is that it really doesn't bother me that she did. We went out 3 times and really had a lot to talk about, I think that after a year and a half she has not moved on from the breakup with her ex. I really don't think that she is ready for dating just yet. She is also going to school full time, and hold down a full-time job.The last time I went out with her I put everything in her court. I more or less told her that it was up to her if she wanted to go out with me again, and had no problem walking away. Have not heard from her since. On the other hand, number 1 and I will be going out on our 5th date on the 4th of July. When she found out at the end of date 4 that I might be available, she seized the opportunity to say that maybe we could do something. Number 1 calls or emails me just to find out how my day was at work, and I never heard from Number 2 unless I contacted her.

I think that figured out that over time the OLDs get weeded out, and the right one will sometimes come through as the one that you least expected. We are taking things very slow, and building upon our friendship. After that I guess well see what happens.

I thank you truewild for all your hand hold through the whole online dating process.It's a scary world out there, and with your guidance I think I can make it..

Vickie

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In reply to: bba56
Tue, 07-05-2005 - 8:30am

It has been my pleasure BB.

CL-Truewild1969

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In reply to: bba56
Tue, 07-05-2005 - 12:27pm

Well since going out yesterday afternoon for a free concert and 4th of July fireworks, we have at least 3 or 4 future scheduled dates (some of them going into the month of August once she returns from her vacation, and 1 or 2 for this week. I also might stop by and see her while she is playing in her pool tournament tonight. I guess that would be 3 probable dates this week. I sent her an email thanking her for the great time that I had with her. Things seem to be going slowly, but I think that this is best for both of us in order to find a common ground, so to speak. She has told me that she has a definite interest in me. This kind of reminds me of the posts of LG. I kind of miss his posts.They were very informative from a guy's perspective, but they crossed across all the OLD venues. Thanks LG wherever you are.

Vickie

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