talked to a really nice guy last night

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talked to a really nice guy last night
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:12am

so I randomly ended up IMing with this really cute, nice guy on lava life last night. We talked for over an hour. He contacted me first, said i sounded fun, interesting, we swapped pics, he said i was very cute, blah blah. we talked more, then he asked to see more pics of me after we had been chatting for about a half hour or so. I didnt really want to send more, but i did...i just dont really have many pics of myself that i like. Most of the ones that i do like are on film, not digital-he even said the same thing about himself. A short while after i sent the pics he said he should go to bed. Of course, i thought, great he doesnt like the pics i sent. I said, ok, nice chatting with you. He said, you too, let's chat again. I said, ok well you have my email. He was like, yeah i do, super cute pictures by the way. I then got brave and said, we should hang out sometime. He said, yeah we should, let's email and figure it out. He went on to say that this weekend wasnt good for him but maybe next week.

so...i'm not sure if i should drop him an email on sunday or something? I really liked chatting with him...dont know if i'll see him on lava again anytime soon. Yes i know i sent him pics of me so he has my email...so perhaps i shuld wait and see if he emails me...but it just seems so up in the air since all he said was, let's email and figure it out. I figure, he wouldnt have said let's chat again and agree to make plans...if he really didnt want to?

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:31am

I would let him contact you. And people say things online (and on the phone and in person for that matter) that they don't mean, ALL THE TIME.

I'd be a little leery of the fact that he asked you to send more pics--that he might be too focused on looks.

Sheri

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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 10:37am
yeah he is not the first guy that has asked me for more pics though. It's a bit irritating since i do have one posted...it's like if i wanted people to see more, i'd have posted more. The one photo i have of me is just a face shot, so it's like,hmm you know they just want to see the bod. I personally like my body better than my face, lol...but i just feel weird about posting full body shots online and sending them to others. I know deep down that i should let him contact me since i'm the one who sent him pics and now he has my email...but then of course there's that part of me that wants to send him an email telling him i liked talking to him. And again, it was left up in the air who would contact who to make plans.
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Fri, 11-03-2006 - 2:25pm

so i just logged on to the site and I see that he has sent me an IM, just said, (:

I have no idea what time it was sent at...i responded, hi there....now no response...but he's online it says? It's the type of thing where he could have left it open and walked away (as i did) or he is ignoring me/

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 4:11pm
so i havent gotten much feedback on this and i could use some advice. Since my initial convo with this guy i mentioned that i had said, we should hang out sometime, he agreed we should and let's set something up on email. I Had emailed him pics of me...so he could have responded back to my email saying, let's meet up. He didnt...but i logged onto the site 3 different times this weekend to see i had a messages from him. We just talked again-seemed like a good chat. HE asked if i had IM i said i did, he added me to his. we probably talked for 45-60 min. He said he had to go i said ok, nothing was brought up about us going out. again this is always how it is with the guys i'm into...i dont want to bring up us going out again since i did first...so i dont know what his deal is...he seems intersted in chatting...we've only chatted twice now...but I guess only time will tell if he's really intersted in going out?
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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 4:54pm

A suprisingly high percentage of guys online seem to only want to chat and have no interest in actually *meeting* anyone. He may be one of them...I find that the guys who want to IM tend to fall into this group (as opposed to those who email and then want to move to phone rather than IM).

So...he may ask you out but I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you.

Sheri

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 5:03pm
i will probably keep talking to him when im online and see what happens. If we are talking a lot over the next week or so ill probably ask if he still wants to go out...depending upon his answer we;ll either go out...or ill quit talking to him. Im not interested in pen pals...but i am interested in him.