I'll try to keep this concise...
I agree with everything mhash has said.
You can’t “like” someone you haven’t met and spent time with in person.
I will def. keep dating and looking for men but its been a dry spell since that two weeks ago and that was it.
He is def. going back to NJ because as he says he has a house there and his kids are there so he has to go back at some point.
Well? This is how it goes which doesnt bother me. He sometimes tries and looks for me in the morning on IM. sometimes we chat if I am on.
then he might send one or two text messages during the day to say hi..How are you?
Then we will sometimes talk on the phone late at night cause of Calif.time difference. Yeah; its been fun but like other OP said it does seem as if he is married to his job.. For me that might be the biggest deal breaker.
I have already asked him about his job and being a workaholic. He says that he works usually in NJ from Monday to Thursday and he is off Fri. Sat. and Sunday. He says that this Calif. thing is a fluke and this is the first time he had to go so far. But as we all say can we really believe what they say?
So I will continue to talk with him because yes some nights are just plain old boring with tv and nothing else much to do.
I am sort of getting my fantasy hopes up but knowing me as soon as there is nothing between us and all of the crap fades away I will be onto my next one. (lol)
I wouldn't say stop talking to him, but I'd dial it back--I know for me, I'd start to run off to fantasyland in my head thinking that they guy was really great, then maybe he won't be so great in real life or maybe he won't even come back--you neve know.
Just a heads up on working out of town, I met a wonderful guy online with the premise of he was relocating close to where I live in a few months.
I totally agree with you but at the beginning of OLD we might make these mistakes and we have to learn.
I have an unfortunate situation with a guy I have been talking to on OLD for about a month now. He is working in Calif. right now for the month of June and some of July . He lives like me on the East Coast as I have said in another post.
We will meet but its just the timing that is off. We just cant meet until he gets back from Calif. No one's fault.
So should I stop talking to him and wait until we meet face to face ?
Over and over again the primary advice is not to do online for too long for the DATING part is the primary goal (at least for those who show up on this forum).
Over and over again women post on how they have "met" such great guys online but never been face-to-face with them.
Thank you Mark for getting straight to the "meat" (meet) of the matter.
This has happened to me twice.. About two years ago a guy I started chatting with online and we never met. This went on for two months which was my fault. I kept hoping we would
The whole point of OLD is to DATE.