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Talks about his other dates from Match
| Sun, 03-05-2006 - 8:49pm |
Hi,
I'm back after several months. I went back on Match in January. I have received quite a few winks, short letters and dates, since then, but nothing beyond second date material so far.
The latest guy I've gone out with, filled the entire conversation with all his dating experiences from Match, Eharmony, Yahoo and one other one he is a member of, his overall experiences of the four dating services, and then encouraged me to also talk about my dating experiences.
The only other thing he talked about was sports, but not very much about himself.
Some background: he has been on Match alone for four years. He also informed me he had two other dates that week, and that there was a woman he met he didn't have chemistry for, but he had to drop her an email one of these days.
This is not the first time, I've come across this.
I just felt like some buddy having a beer with him, and not a possible romantic partner.
Has anyone else had this experience?
Why would anyone do this? I went on the date for him to learn about me, and vis-versa, not about other people I don't know.
Any insight appreciated, thanks.
- FF
I'm back after several months. I went back on Match in January. I have received quite a few winks, short letters and dates, since then, but nothing beyond second date material so far.
The latest guy I've gone out with, filled the entire conversation with all his dating experiences from Match, Eharmony, Yahoo and one other one he is a member of, his overall experiences of the four dating services, and then encouraged me to also talk about my dating experiences.
The only other thing he talked about was sports, but not very much about himself.
Some background: he has been on Match alone for four years. He also informed me he had two other dates that week, and that there was a woman he met he didn't have chemistry for, but he had to drop her an email one of these days.
This is not the first time, I've come across this.
I just felt like some buddy having a beer with him, and not a possible romantic partner.
Has anyone else had this experience?
Why would anyone do this? I went on the date for him to learn about me, and vis-versa, not about other people I don't know.
Any insight appreciated, thanks.
- FF

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I've also run into this a lot and I hate it. IMO, when it goes beyond "how do you like this whole OLD thing" into specific dates with specific people, it is the man telling you that he is not looking seriously for one person. I would have said it was that he was new to the subject, but that is clearly not the case here. I have sometimes told funny stories about PAST dates, but not CURRENT ones.
On the subject of being on multiple sites for a long time -- I've done this off and on for 5 years, so I don't think longevity is that serious an issue -- just the existence of this board, and the level of activity, tells you that it sometimes takes a LOT of effort and time to find the right person.
I generally have seen the same men on every site, and I would imagine it's the same the other way around. I am not sure what the value is in that, and I'd have trouble keeping it all straight, but hey, if he wants to pay all those memberships, it's his money.
Do you think it makes a difference how long you stay on ONE particular dating site? For instance...I don't want to subscribe to 2 or 3 at a time ($$ factor here), but would like to keep trying this. I'm currently on yahoo, but am having little luck. I guess what I'm asking for is other people's experiences with staying on one site consecutively or switching it up after a few months.
All feedback is very welcome!!
Thanks!
M
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He seemed to have a very specific checklist in mind, and seemed angry none of the women met his checklist, and how he was spending money on a bunch of dates, that led to nothing.
If he and I had exchanged a few good emails, or he had been more specific in his profile, we could have both saved time. It's funny these guys seem to all have specific criteria, but are never up front in their profiles. But that's another topic. Tx
Like many OLDers have said on this thread, I agree I see quite a few of the same guys on multiple sites. Given that, unlike my date, I wouldn't do more than one at a time. I think the sites are different in how you meet someone. I have been on two recently, eharmony and Match. Very different experiences.
I liked the ice breaker questions, from eharmony, which are more geared towards values and personality. I felt it was easier to get to know someone. Whereas, Match seems to direct people towards hobbies and recreation. I've had many more dates from Match than eharmony, however. I have never done Yahoo, so no experience to draw from. So, the style of one site will be better for you than another. On any of the sites, it is weed, weed, weed, and knowing your own negotiables and non-negotiables (dealbreakers).
Hope that helps answer your question, somewhat.
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