Tell me about your online experiences...

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Registered: 08-02-2010
Tell me about your online experiences...
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Tue, 08-10-2010 - 3:09pm

I am interested in your online dating history...your successes and your failures...what worked for you and what didn't...please share.

Sandy

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Registered: 04-17-2008
Wed, 08-11-2010 - 12:48pm

I have been doing online dating fairly conscientiously off and on for the past two years.

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Registered: 08-02-2010
Wed, 08-11-2010 - 2:22pm

Thanks for sharing your history....NEVER SETTLE!! The right guy is out there for you...settling is the reason the divorce rate is so high...too high.

Sandy

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Registered: 08-24-2006
Fri, 08-13-2010 - 1:32am

I met my current BF online! I'm moving in with him at the end of the month, and it's been going exceptionally well. It took until the 3rd date for the chemistry to kick in, but when it did it was very strong! He treats me so well. I'm very lucky.

I also met my previous long term boyfriend of four years on the same site (OkCupid). It wasn't a bad relationship, but it wasn't a good one either. We've stayed friends.

I've gone out on dozens of dates before ending up in relationships though. Some lasted for a couple months, most for one date. No stalkers. But a few crazies and just plain maladjusted guys.

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Registered: 08-02-2010
Sun, 08-15-2010 - 2:45pm

Congratulations on your success....gives us all hope that we will find Mr. (or Ms.) Right!!

Thanks for sharing.

Sandy

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 08-17-2010 - 6:26pm

Oh, so much to talk about!

Did OLD for over two years. Many first meets that went nowhere. A few guys I suspected were married. A few who seemed to want to be pen pals and nothing more. Some who were looking for the perfect woman even though they were far from perfect themselves. Lots of guys who CLEARLY didn't read my profile!

Lots of guys with divorce issues, they still hated their exes. Some who claimed they wanted LTR, but really wanted FWB. Lots of mind games.

But...a few good ones. Some were nice but there was no chemistry. One was good, but then he ghosted after 5 months (bastard).

But I met my BF on line. He had just as much difficulty with the medium that I did. We've been together 6 months now.

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Registered: 08-02-2010
Thu, 08-19-2010 - 4:34pm
Congrats and I hope it continues to go well. I love success stories...it keeps the hope alive.
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Registered: 08-08-2010
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:14pm
I tried a long distance relationship, using online services a lot, but in the end the distance just killed it. The good part is I am now very good at video chatting on Skype, and sending video emails on mailVU. The online tools are helpful, but just no substitute for physical contact.
Joe
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Registered: 06-18-2006
Sun, 08-22-2010 - 10:26pm

I've done online dating off and on for 3 years. The first time was with Yahoo Personals, was on there for maybe a month. Met one hot younger guy,

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Registered: 09-16-2007
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 12:25am
I too have been off and on, trying to move on with my life. It would be nice to meet someone that I really look forward to seeing. I have been divorced for many years, would be nice to find my mate.
Like the previous poster, I have gone on so many coffee dates and have met some nice men but didn't have much spark to continue on. I can't settle either, I am older now and still can get dates but it's hard to meet in real life. When you meet someone naturally, the flow is slower, there is friendship, acquaintance, desire builds if you start to like the person. With online dating, it's so arranged but it works for a lot of people. Sometimes I think it's just me, I am not sure what I am looking for, but I have not found it. I won't give up, and I think the younger you are the easier. There are a lot of single men and women in my age group.
The last date, he was polite, 3rd date, and he was all over me. He said a few things that showed me he was going in for home plate. I hardly know him, and it's creeping me out. I won't rush anything and I recommend taking your time to get to know someone without pressure, go to some fun places, enjoy the outdoors, hear some music, but take your time.
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Registered: 05-10-2010
Tue, 08-24-2010 - 12:26am

I met my sweet man eight months ago on Match. I was actively looking for a relationship and felt, four years after my marriage break-up, that I was ready. I screened people carefully, had no terrible dates, met several really nice guys but nothing clicked over a period of a few months -- but I kept plugging.

Right before Christmas this man from a little too far away wrote and I decided I would drive a little further than really made sense to meet him. We stopped looking after that first date and have been together ever since. I just turned 48, he is 49, and we are crazy in love. We both live in small towns -- what are the odds of meeting someone really extraordinary walking down the street?

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