Tell me how stupid I am!
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| Wed, 08-17-2005 - 11:02am |
OK here's the deal.....I'm from a very small town where everyone knows what everyone else is doing. I have this irrational fear of posting my picture. I am a very private person and want my business to be my own. I have heard of people in this town actually getting on the personals sites just to see if they know anyone! They're just being nosy. That is the last thing I want. I know this sounds really shallow of me, but I don't want to give the whole town something to talk about, if you know what I mean.
I am signed up with Yahoo and eHarmony. On my Yahoo personal I state in my profile that "the best gift you can give some is your time and if you are worthy of my time, I have a picture to send you." (something like that)Hmm..now that I read that sounds kinda harsh LOL
On eHarmony, I share my picture with only people I want to see it.
I know I'm getting passed up because they don't see me right away (at least I hope so, I'm not a total dog or anything), but I just feel really uncomfortable putting my mug up there for everyone to see.
ANYWAY GIRLS (& GUYS, if there are any) LET ME HAVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (This will be fun)

Now, now, now.
I don't think you are stupid at all! I think you are smart! :)
Sara
The first time I did OLD I didn't have a picture up. I was afraid someone I work with would see it. I did say in my profile I had a picture to send, and I got plenty of replies and met my x-bf who I dated for a year 1/2.
This time I'm being adventurous and putting it up there. I work at a new place and several people know I met my x-bf through OLD. I think if anyone I knew saw my ad now, they would not be surprised I had one up and if they said anything to me they'd wish me luck.
If you are not comfortable putting your picture up then I think it's fine not to.
I live in Louisville.
CL-Truewild1969
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I would NEVER call you stupid, but if you were complaining about a lack of responses I would call you silly! Since you know what no pics will do to your stats and are fine with that, then there's no problem.
One other side benefit is that you'll most likely get fewer Wankers emailing/winking at you. Those guys like photos.
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That line does indeed sound harsh -- also snotty. Couldn't you rephrase it, make it a little nicer? Like, get rid of "if you are worthy of my time". One suggested replacement is "if I feel we could be a match..."
amjay
I don't know if living in a small town is reason enough to hide what you are doing, but I know that some people who teach school don't want their students snickering over their profiles, and I don't blame them. If you feel you have a good reason not to put up a photo, why not state it honestly? "I didn't post a photo because I live in a town of 800 people and I really don't want everyone to gossip about me. Please email me and we can exchange photos then."
As a matter of fact, after I wrote this message, I went in and change that snotty line! LOL
Funny how you can type something then read it later and it sounds that way.
I never thought about keeping the Wankers (I like that LOL) away by not posting a pic.