"Tell me more about yourself"
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"Tell me more about yourself"
| Sun, 08-07-2005 - 11:04am |
Ok, here's an annoyance of mine. Not a dealbreaker, but something I'm dealing with while emailing with this guy. He's a doctor, seems to be normal from all accounts & have a lot of what I'm looking for at this early stage.
The problem is that in the last 3 emails, he rarely asks specific questions. He'll just say at the end "so tell me more about yourself". And I write LONG emails anyway. Does anyone get annoyed at that too, or is it just me?
Annie

Usually it comes from people who are socially challenged or just don't want to put whole a lot of effort into this and want you to do all the work and pursue them. I personally don't find this appealing and usually don't respond to an e-mail like that.
I HATE that! HATE HATE HATE.
And usually respond by saying "I'd love to tell you more about myself. Why don't you tell me what you'd like to know." As in: ASK ME A QUESTION, and I'll ANSWER it!
I also hate when I write an email, usually long, answer their questions, and they don't even respond to any of it, just write a totally new email disregarding everything I've said.
It's not that he doesn't write good emails back. He actually writes long ones answering my questions & commenting on my stuff. It's just that he doesn't seem to ask many questions other than the "tell me about yourself"...again.
He says he's been running around doing a lot of errands, so he's been busy, so I'm cutting him a little slack. I admit I sometimes struggle to think of questions to ask others, but at least I try. :)
Annie
If he's not asking YOU questions, then that would indicate to me he's self-absorbed and/or socially inept. In the past, I've just stopped emailing guys like this...neither are qualities I want in a guy ;-).
Sheri
Sometimes people are just clueless or they've had bad experiences. If someone's been doing OLD for a while, they may be burned out. They may just not have the energy to be engaging.
I was recently reading some emails the guy I'm currently seeing sent me. I winked at him and he responded. His last sentence to me was something like "So tell me about you." Interestingly enough his not asking me specific questions is one of the issues we are currently dealing with (at nine weeks). I find that he has enough other nice qualities to make up for his less than sterling interpersonal skills. Long story short: maybe you shouldn't discount someone just for that one thing.