Telling the parents!!!

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Registered: 05-16-2006
Telling the parents!!!
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Tue, 05-16-2006 - 6:56pm
I am 23 years old & started talking to this guy online back when we were 15. We were not looking to meet anyone (we met in an online game chat room.) We have kept in contact ever since. Things are now getting very serious. Problem is, we live almost 1000 miles apart. He is willing to relcate to where I am. I am still living at home & my parents are very over protective. Any advice on how to break the news to them that this guy they have never even heard of that I met online is going to move here & we are going to live together??? I need any advice I can get. I am soooo lost on what to do!!!! Thanks so much
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:06pm

I'm assuming you met him already?


I would say tell it to them slowly. Why not have him over for dinner, let them get to know him a bit. And then break it to them... At the end of the day, no matter how you tell them the choice is still yours. If they're upset, there's nothing you can do about it except live your life.


Let us know how it goes.


Kerry

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:37pm

Hi Kelli,

My suggestion would be that you take this gradually. Can't he move to your general area and you can start dating him and bring him home to your parents, introduce him to your friends, etc?

It doesn't sound to me like you've had a lot of face-to-face contact anyway, so a period of face-to-face courtship before you move in together will be good for both of you.

I wouldn't tell your parents that you are planning to move in with this guy until after they have met and interacted with each other a bit. YOu can just introduce him as a special friend from online who has now moved to town.

Date for two or three months, let him get settled in the new community and then discuss with your parents your plans of moving in with him. They may still freak out, but it will be less bad than if you just announce you're moving out to live with someone you hardly have had any in-person contact with, you've never mentioned before, etc.

Good luck!

El

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Registered: 10-14-2003
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 7:45pm

You've met this guy, right? Like in real person? You've spent time with this guy, like, more than one weekend or two?

If you're going on his personality online - big mistake. Big, big, big mistake. BIG mistake. I can't stress that any more. BIG mistake. And your parents will, with very good reason, probably be very upset.

Now - if you've spent quite a lot of time with this guy - you've been traveling back and forth to spend time with him in person - then I say that you're an adult and it's your business.

BUT - PLEASE, PLEASE tell me you've spent time with this guy without a computer screen. A LOT of time. Because if you haven't - you're making a HUGE mistake.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Tue, 05-16-2006 - 9:15pm

Wow, hon.

heather 5-18-10