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telltale signs of a married man?
| Tue, 05-31-2005 - 5:21pm |
Does anyone know if there are any signs to tell you that you are dating a married man? I'm trying to be cautious because I'd never want to have this happen to me. I know how I would feel if I was the wife whose husband was cheating like this and I don't want to be the "other woman". This weekend I might be meeting a guy I met online. He lives about a half-hour away from where I live. We chatted on IM and emailed for about a week and he said he was never married or has kids but you can't really believe everything people tell you on there, I know that. He uses a laptop too whether that would mean anything. I don't really suspect that he's married but I'm just a little cautious like I said. I looked up his name in the phone directory and it's there in the same town he said he's from. He never suggested talking on the phone but it would be long distance so I can understand that. If anybody here has anything to share about how to tell if someone is married, let me know.
Edited 5/31/2005 5:24 pm ET ET by kathy748
Edited 5/31/2005 5:24 pm ET ET by kathy748

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There are ALOT ALOT of married men out there pulling this crap. OLD makes it easier to hide what they are doing from the people in their lives that they are accountable to.
However, from what I've heard from my male friends- there appears to be almost as many "lonely" married women out there doing the same thing. I have a guy friend on match who gets at least 2 emails a week from different married women.
With the divorce rate over 50% and in some parts of the country over 60%, is it really surprising there are that many people out there willing to cheat on their spouses?
Kathy-
You might want to check out match.com. Their monthly newsletter addressed your question.
Cali
"Are there really that many married men out there trying to hook up with someone?"
YES!
"Is it just men that are pulling this crap?"
NO!
I've been the dumba$$ and believed what the guy said. It's all a load a hooey. No matter how special you think your situation is compared to ALL the others seeing a married somebody, it boils down to the same scenario and nothing good comes from it. Ever.
"Are there really that many married men out there trying to hook up with someone?"
Call me jaded.... but Im almost to the point of presuming guilt until proven otherwise!
This is a great link for CT folks:
http://www.jud2.state.ct.us/Civil_Inquiry/GetParty.asp
You can view divorce cases online. They seem to have recently purged some and as far as I can see they keep ones that are about 3 years old or newer. So NOT finding your person in here doesn't automatically mean they are married (my divorce is no longer listed since it was final 5+ yrs ago).
Yes I don't come up either and I was divorced in 2000. They seem to have recently purged out quite a few years worth of history. The site is no longer as definitive as it once was -- however it's still a good source of information/verification.
I tend to look at the online records and if they're really lengthy I can tell that something is going on with a continued court battle.
There were several people that I met who had very lengthy online histories with that site, and the majority of our conversation was about their divorce.
Since I'm long past those battles, I decided to pass on them rather than be drawn into a yearlong debacle of listening to stories of the awful ex. Constant court appearances also are very draining and I am not fond of revisiting any of that at all since I'm settled quite amicably into post-divorce life.
Hi Amjay,
I like your list! Agree with it all,but we only have cells here at our home,as the land line is an added expense I cannot afford, and with both of my boys driving, I really wanted them to have cells. Works great and I do Not miss that ringing Monster, as we sit down to dinner. Lady at SW Bell told me when I chunked the line 2 years ago, that about 20% of households had already done the same, I am sure that percentage is higher now. The first thing a practiced criminal will do is cut your land line, so cells are safer,as well. Just 4-1-1! :)
Married?...hmmm....again, do Not ignore Intuition, as it knows of whence it Speaks! That long distance thing might also mean he is "farm chickens"--ie, Cheap!! (cheap, cheap!). Did you look him up on the county appraisal disctrict for property? CSI this,and you will learn more. Has he told you where he works, and does that check out, as well?
Mostly, don't ignore the red flag-age that is obviously popping up in your mind, but also, try not to be too jaded. Married or not, he sounds a bit unusual....in time, he will show all his feathers! Make this one a part of a "case study" on your part--ie, date about 11 Other men, too! :)
Best o luck
Truly,
Cupcake
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