Is there anyone honest out there?

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Registered: 02-20-2006
Is there anyone honest out there?
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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:14pm

I've been seeing someone from OLD for 2 months and things had been, I thought, going really well. We became exclusive early, 3 weeks, agreed to take our profiles down, and are intimate.

We got back today from our first trip, short weekend trip to visit friends. It went really well and I was feeling really close to him. I don't know what made me do it but just a little while ago I was online and decided to check for his match profile. To my amazement it is back there - not only that but he is online now! I am in tears. True, I don't know him that well given it's only been 2 months, but all indications were that he was a good, honest guy. Everything he said he would do, he didd. I believed him. I trusted him, not an easy thing for me to do. And now I find out he is a lying piece of ****. I am sitting here wondering if there is anyone out there who is trustworthy anymore, if this guy isn't thwn who is???? I can't believe I was so fooled. I keep wondering, is there any way this is a tech glitch - but how can it be???? I know that he took the profile down over a month ago, I checked, and profiles don't just resurrect and log you in on their own.

All I can guess is that he decided at some point that I'm not the one for him but he would stick around for the sex. I feel so used! Yes, we are adults and I was a willing participant, bu t he changed the deal without having the decency to talk to me about it.

I dont know how to deal with this. How to confront him. I know a conversation is in order, just not sure what I will say. I am guessing he will have some excuse and I am not s ure how to respond to whatever excuses he has. As much online dating as I have done Ive never been in this situation. Any thoughts appreciated.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:49pm

Aww, I'm so sorry.

heather 5-18-10
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Registered: 02-20-2006
Sun, 08-13-2006 - 11:04pm
Ya know, that is what I don't get either. He suggested this trip to meet his best friend. And his friend's wife told me she's only met two other women he's dated, both of whom were serious gfs, so it's not like he takes all of his dates there. I don't know what is going on, just know I don't like it. Much as I like him - and I really really do - I don't see how I could continue seeing him after this w/o renouncing my own self-respect. I need to be with someone I can trust, and the one big promise he's made to me so far he broke. How could I ever believe another word he says?? thanks for your thoughts.