Is there really someone for everyone??

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Registered: 07-05-2005
Is there really someone for everyone??
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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 8:37am

Hi all,

I have kind of a strange question. Does anyone here ever feel like they are never going to meet the right person for them?? I know it sounds silly, but I feel like i'm trying so hard (maybe too hard) and getting NOWHERE. I just feel like i'm 29 now, I see my sisters both married with kids and i'm beginning to feel like the clock is ticking so to speak. I miss having someone to love and I just feel like it isn't going to happen for me. I do all the internet dating stuff, seems like I meet nothing but creeps on there, and I dont have many friends who like to go out to clubs/bars (besides, it's not like you're going to meet the man of your dreams at a club anyway, right?)

Anyway, sorry to ramble on like this, i'm just wondering if there's anyone else out there who feels like this sometimes the way I do or if it's just me...

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 10:19am
No I don't believe that everyone ends up with someone or there is someone for everyone. I think there are different paths we take in life, that cross us with others and sometimes do not.
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Registered: 09-04-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 10:22am

I know what you mean. I would just keep on doing what you're doing - it's a numbers game. At the same time you need to make a wonderful life for yourself. Do whatever you have to do so that if you never meet Mr. Right you will still have a full and happy life. I know your clock is ticking but 29 is still very young. You have at least 10 more years, if not more. And....if worse comes to worst you can consider adopting on your own at some point down the road. When we have a great life I think it draws men to us - they want to be a part of it. And, when we have a great life, finding someone to share it with is the icing on the cake - not the cake itself.

Debbie

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 1:53pm

. . . but 29 is still very young. You have at least 10 more years . . .


Ohmigosh!!

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 2:04pm

I totally feel where you're coming from, I just posted something similar. I'm 27, have been on so many first dates I've lost track, very few second dates and it's hard. I am asking myself the same thing "is there someone out there for me?". Now, I won't date someone just for the sake of having a guy on my arm, I'm looking for something more meaningful and lasting than that, someone that I connect with on all levels and, well, I hate to sound cliche and use a movie line, but what Tom Cruise said to Renee Zellwegger, "you complete me". Call me cheesey and a hopeful romantic, but I guess I am, but it's hard to still maintain the belief that there is someone out there sometimes.

Good luck, you're not alone!

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Registered: 09-16-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 2:15pm
I know exactly where you are coming from!! However, being 43, I am in a very different position. The older you get, the harder it definitely is. I am meeting alot of very nice men, that turn out to be flakes!! But the few that I have met, including Peter, over the weekend was great. Will just have to see how it turns out. It can be completely frustrating and disappointing. I am just saying that I am keeping my chin up and my head held high. I won't settle for just anyone because I want to be with someone either. Don't sell yourself short!!!