is there such a thing as player?
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is there such a thing as player?
| Thu, 06-16-2005 - 3:48pm |
or maybe we call "player" people who for one or the other reason don't want to date us.
Sometime I think we call "player" a person who just haven't found what they are looking for given that, of course, there are people out there who just enjoy the trill of hurting others.
Sometime I think we call "player" a person who just haven't found what they are looking for given that, of course, there are people out there who just enjoy the trill of hurting others.

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A "player", to me, is someone who lies to get what they want. Example: they want sex, but they know YOU want a committed LTR. So they look deep into your eyes and tell you that's what they want too. Then once they get you to sleep with them, they're out the door, and you've been "played".
But so long as someone is honest about what they want, I don't consider them to be a player.
Sheri
If you want to see my definition of a "player" -- rent this movie. One of the main characters is the best example you'll ever see.
>>He went on to say how gorgeous or sweet I was in almost every email...blah blah blah...turns out he was doing the same thing with 3 other women. I
>>What makes this different than any other online dater -- I submit that one of the requirements of online dating (unless you get very lucky) is to be maintaining contact (aka dating) several women until you can decide to focus on one.<<
However, a player is one who maintains dates with several women at the same time with no intention of EVER deciding to focus on one...
I think players do exist, as I've dated one or two in my life! Often cleverly disguised as "nice guys", they are anything but and are constantly on the lookout for the BBD, to have their egos stroked, or simply- to spread it around. Blech.
Sadly, players can be found in just about every age bracket too.
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