Things that make you go hmmm...
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| Tue, 03-07-2006 - 8:43pm |
Well, on the discussion of what/when is appropriate to talk about sex. A recent eHarmony match has me wondering what to do. In his "Must Haves/Can't Stands" he has"
Passionate...... I must have someone who is willing to explore our sexual desires with passion and understanding.
Affectionate...... I must have someone who is comfortable giving and receiving affection.
Chemistry...... I must feel deeply in love with and attracted to my partner.
Uninterested...... I can't stand someone who does not enjoy having sex on a regular basis.
And then he freeformed his questions and said:
Is there a difference between having sex and making love? If so, what?
And all this from a guy that doesn't even make his picture available at this stage! I'm torn because I just don't know. Nothing he's said is "offensive" per se but to me it's just not something I share with someone that I've never even seen his face yet and not sure if I'd want to even CONSIDER sex with him. I don't know if I want to close him, call him on it or kind of ignore it and go on.

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I wouldn't consider this appropriate in the first set of questions, and I would let him know that in my answer.
E
I agree, I know it's shallow but I would ask for a pic. One guy told me he look like Sylvester Stalone, yeah when I got his pic he looked like he was on drugs. I don't discuss things like sex online with a guy I first met. I wouldn't do it person, why is online any different? I hear warning bells about this guy.
The Unicorn
I can see your point of view - this was an issue in my last relationship.
I think one mention about chemistry or something slightly cute and suggestive is okay, but this guy has clearly gone over the edge.
OK, I kept it up because I wanted to see if he was hot. The only excuse a guy has for saying all that sex stuff and hiding his picture is if he's hot. So not hot. Now I'm in trouble b/c I went to this point and now that he made his pic available, I have no interest.
Sigh... I think I need a break from OLD.
My theory on this is that there are very few "frigid" women but a lot of bored,uninspired, and uninterested women. I dated a man that complained that his ex-wife was cold and didn't enjoy sex. When we got to that stage of the relationship, I sympathized with her. He was in his mid-40's and hadn't a clue as to what would please a woman physically.
I had one man I had been chatting with go into the "my ex was cold" thing and my response to him was that most women would walk over broken glass before giving up on a man with whom the sex was fantastic and if a woman isn't interested in being intimate with her partner, there is usually a good reason.
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