Think I just met a real wacko!

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Registered: 07-21-2008
Think I just met a real wacko!
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 9:18pm

I think I may have just met/had my first experience with a real nut job online...and I made first contact (only yesterday)! His first email to me was rather lengthly and started with "Hi Gorgeous". Okay, I like to think I'm cute, so I can let that slide ;0 Still some minor red flags though in his comments.

Second email starts with Hi Dear. Dear? What, are we an old married couple all ready? And I noticed somewhere in the middle of all his hopes and desires in a woman, a certain line looked familiar. Sure enough, it was a duplicate from a line in the first email! Now the bells are going off :) And he still hasn't answered any of the questions I had asked in the two emails I sent, just more of how he thinks he and I will really be a match and he's been looking for someone to love him and he could love back. Nothing like a real conversation! (BTW, he has an 8 y/o daughter and supposedly widowed.)

Third and most recent email tonight: "Oh my God , wow am so glad happy we are communicating well thank you so much for getting back at me , baby you will definately enjoy meeting me.." Baby? I don't even know this guy! ( and his misp.) He sent me more pics of himself and two of his daughter, says he showed her my pictures!

And then tells me he's currently in Nigeria with his daughter for his job, (listed himself in my hometown on his profile), and the job he says he's there for, does NOT match the job he listed on his profile! I saved a copy of it, and wouldn't you know, he's already taken it off the website. We are communicating through regular email!

This guy creeps me out and now I don't want any more communication with him. Should I just tell him he comes on way too strong (and phony, lol), or another legit reason, but one that leaves no room for argument - he has an 8 year old and I'm not looking to raise any more kids - my kids are both over 22 and I'm a grandma!

Things just don't add up with this one and I'm going to (for once!) trust my instinct.

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Registered: 07-21-2008
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 11:02pm

Done! I sent a nice email saying I felt we were at different places in life, and I have moved beyond the role of raising children. It was all very tactful and pleasant.

I sure hope I don't hear from him again, or I will have to block him! Re-reading his emails is even more spooky. He has prayed to God that God would send him someone to love, and here he was talking to me! He had hoped to meet someone where we could become a family, and support each other always.... Yikes!

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Registered: 03-20-2010
Mon, 07-12-2010 - 11:17pm
Run! You don't owe him anything.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 12:28am for the Doonesbury view of any email from Nigeria

For other fraud scams from Nigeria

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 12:57am

not so much a wacko as a fairly common scam.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 8:58am

Yikes! Good for you for putting a halt to it asap.

Thanks to everyone else for posting lots of helpful information about scam artists!


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Registered: 07-21-2008
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 9:13pm

Good info from all!