Thoughts about meeting online
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| Tue, 09-19-2006 - 3:19pm |
I have been coming to this board for a lot of years and it's changed over the course of the past 6 years. The one constant seems to be the consensus that you can't really know someone without meeting face to face. I am here to say that it sounds good on paper but in real life there are times that you meet someone online and have a relationship with them that can be considered a true friendship. I cringe sometimes when I hear such strong convictions of it isn't a real relationship unless you've met face to face.
In February I "accidentally" met a man in Florida. I had stopped dating online in 2002 after little success and I am currently "courting" a man I work with. The man I met in February lives in FLA I am in CA. I love Nascar and was looking for someone to chat about it and well men are the highest percentage of fans even though Nascar has millions of female fans. We chatted that first day for hours while watching a race and he called me that night. It was just going to be a moment and it's turned into a real nice friendship. He has recently gotten divorced and is raising his children on his own. One of his children isn't even his as his wife cheated on him with another man and he didn't find out until the day his beautiful daughter was born....let's just say she was bit darker than he anticipated. His wife left her with him to raise. We use to chat just about every night online and finally a few months ago we've not met up each night and now we mostly talk by email during the day and he calls me every day at lunch and calls me at least twice on the weekends. (He's quite a talker this one is.) He knows about my "friend" and he hasn't started dating and I am sure when either of us gets into a relationship that will lessen our contact.
We talk frequently about him coming to meet me face-to-face. We both agree that it's important that we resolve this because neither of us want to assume that we aren't the perfect person for each other but the money issue gets in the way. We talk like we're married and the people I work with actually thinks we are together. (My private life is private including my relationship with my co-worker) Will we ever meet? No telling...we check the prices every once in a while and try to scrape up a few dollars to make it happen but it just doesn't happen. He is still wounded from the divorce and after being married for 23 years he tells me it's difficult to think about being with another woman. I am so grateful that I stuck with him through all these months and didn't decide that since we can't meet until probably 2007 that it isn't worth the effort. Are there feelings there for me? Definitely. Is it gonna hurt when he starts dating someone else there??? Heck Ya!!!! Would I move to FLA is he turned out to be the one!! IN A FRICKIN HEARTBEAT!!! I adore him and he makes me laugh all the time.
I just wanted to share this with everyone or anyone who is reading this....lol It's important to stay open minded about people. People come into our lives for so many reasons and falling in love and having sex with them isn't the only options.
The next time someone tells you that you couldn't possibly know someone that you haven't met trust your gut instincts because there are all types of relationships in this life and they all have a special value of their own.
F
