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Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:37am
I've made the decision to leave Match when my current three month membership runs out near the end of October. To make the most of my time remaining, I'd like a critique of the profile. I've got some new pictures to post and I'd appreciate your comments. formerreiner

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Registered: 06-02-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:46am

Cascade,

What did you experience in the 3 months? I am beginning to think OLD is a complete waste of my time and money. I am considering cancelling now, after a little more than 1 week.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:47am

We're both Libra's, ha!

I like your profile, it's clear (says you're NOT looking for marriage) well written with a twist of adventure and a sense of humor. I wouldn't change a thing. Just make sure to do edit's on your multiple choice questions from time to time even if you don't change it, this way it pushes your ad back up to the top.

I will also say it will probably take you much longer then 3 months to meet someone, I'd give it at least 6 months to a year before throwing in the towel. What you should do is just go on living your fun life in Texas and periodically check in to see who has written you. Use it as another source for meeting someone not your ONLY source.

Good luck!

Ms. Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 10:50am

Hal,

Read my note to the OP. Don't throw in the towel, use it as another avenue in addition to meeting people out and about. It takes TIME. Keep it up at least 6 months and trust me in that time not tomorrow or next week you will more than likely meet some quality people. Think of it as a fishing net, you keep it there in the water, eventually you will catch something. Don't look at OLD as an instant fix to meeting someone, it's very much like real life dating it still takes TIME.

Good luck.

Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 06-02-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 11:12am

>Keep it up at least 6 months and trust me in that
>time not tomorrow or next week you will more than
>likely meet some quality people

Will I meet someone sooner if I increased the speed of my broadband connection?

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Registered: 04-25-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 11:18am

Hal,

My experience has been mixed. I've met/emailed with/talked on the phone with a pretty wide assortment of men -m ost I'm not interested in, one is now a friend, and a couple whom I think are certifiable. All that being said, this board has been a real help in getting the real info on how OLD really works. I don't think it's been a waste of time and money, for me, anyway. I'd do it again and in fact, I probably will do it again. I'm just ready for a break.

For what it's worth, I was on yahoo earlier in the year, for a very short time. The first man who contacted me I set up with my sister. He's a great guy and they are still dating. I have many friends who have met and married from an OLD experience, so there are success stories out there. It only takes one.

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 11:46am

Hi Cascade,
I agree with Peanut in both the profile assessment...(It's great, I honestly can't see anything that needs to be changed) and that 3 months is probably not enough time to find that quality person.

Has this 3 month match subscription been your first OLD experience? What have your experiences been so far?

I started OLD almost a year ago thinking I'd be dating like crazy. Not so. Yeah, it can be discouraging but as peanut said, it's just another resource. Don't put ALL your dating hopes in that basket. I'm 45 as well and I moved back to San Francisco, where I grew up, 4 years ago after being away for almost 20 years. Establishing a social network has NOT been easy. I don't know about you, but I've found that most people our age just don't have the social network to meet quality singles because our friends and family are mostly coupled up. Besides, when friends and family try to set you up...well, give me a match date anytime. LOL.

I've met several interesting men and had two relationships, that although we ultimately weren't matches, I'm sure glad I met them and enjoyed the heck out of dating them. I would have never had those experiences without OLD.

Take a break if you feel you need a time out, but keep your profile up and refresh it every now and again to keep it current. I have my email address coded in my profile so that guys can contact me without subscribing. Try doing that when your subscription runs out. It leaves an open avenue to you...providing guys actually READ your profile and have a brain in their head;P

Good luck to you and keep the faith,
Michele
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Edit: I just read your previous response to Hal, so most the point of most of my post here is probably moot. Maybe it'll help Hal;)




Edited 10/5/2005 11:54 am ET by cheleinsf
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Registered: 04-25-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 12:34pm

Will I meet someone sooner if I increased the speed of my broadband connection?

I'm thinking of buying a new computer! LOL

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Registered: 04-25-2003
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 1:16pm

CheleinSF,

Your experiences are very similar to mine. Creating or reinventing a social network for one's self is tough. I feel like I'm out of step with most of my cohorts. Married earlier, had kids earlier, divorced earlier, kid grown and gone earlier. So right now, I'm just sort of waiting for everyone else to catch up with me. And it gets a little lonley at times. Unfortunately, it seems that it is easier to advertise for a date than for a woman friend with whom to go shoe-shopping :-). OLD is just one of the ways I'm enriching, expanding and adding to my life.

I hope I don't come across as defeated, bitter or negative, because I'm not really feeling any of those things. The great thing about being this age is the self-awareness that comes with it.

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 1:24pm

LOL, now that’s “too cute”. I will say with that “great sense of humor” puts you light speeds ahead of the rest!

Good luck.

 
 
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 10-05-2005 - 1:38pm

I really like your profile. It's upbeat and reveals your spirit!

BTW - I took some reining lessons a few years ago and had a blast - but my heart will always be in the hunter/jumper ring. :P


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