The time is coming

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Registered: 07-08-2006
The time is coming
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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 7:52pm
I met someone online nearly a month ago which is so unlike me. I can't believe how this "relationship" has developed. We text, im and/or talk on the phone everyday. The two of us live about 12 hours away from each other and have been discussing a long distance relationship if we do enter into a relationship. Neither of us have experience in that department (I'm 28 and he's 30). I believe he's going to fly up here to see me next month, where we'll meet for the first time face to face. Heck, I feel like I already know him really well because we've discussed nearly everything there is to discuss. A "first date" is not going to seem like a first date AT ALL. Does he stay with me? What if he makes plans to come up here for a few days and then one of us ends up not liking the other? (we have shared a variety of photos) I'm a nervous wreck over this because I want it to work so bad; I truly feel that everything happens for a reason and that he was brought to me in a sense. Advice please!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 8:01pm

There's a whole section in the book "Curse of the Singles Table" ( a very funny, wonderful memoir about dating that I just read last night and posted about below in the off-topic section) about this type of situation and how possible it is to feel that you have this amazing connection online and then *nothing* when you finally meet in person. So, while it's also possible that you WILL feel the same sort of connection, just be prepared to not feel it.

And for safety purposes, HECK NO he shouldn't be invited to stay with you!!! He should get a hotel, and you should meet in a PUBLIC place on his first day. If after a day or two you feel comfortable enough with him to have him cancel his hotel reservation and stay with you for the rest of the time, then fine, but don't have him come to your home before you even meet and spend some time together in person.

Good luck, I hope it works out, but be safe and be smart!!!

Sheri

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 4:15am

I agree. You shouldnt AT ALL plan on his staying with your OR coming to your house - till you meet him IRL~


Good luck!

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