Tonka quiet & depressed today..
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Tonka quiet & depressed today..
| Thu, 03-24-2005 - 12:48pm |
Sorry I'm just venting out.
We all know when to call it off. I just did that yesterday - no response from him. What doesn't work, doesn't work. O.k. move on.. NEXT!
We all know when to call it off. I just did that yesterday - no response from him. What doesn't work, doesn't work. O.k. move on.. NEXT!

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I took a few days of vacation and wasn’t following the board as closely; did I miss something?
Sorry to hear you're down, tonka. And I'm also sorry that I can't remember who this guy was!
We know it's easy to advise, "move on", but it sure is hard to do sometimes, isn't it?
Hi Tonk,
In my 48 years of height impaired wisdom, I have found, bar none, that often, the truth SUCKS!
I am sorry you have to go through this, and I do not want to get all 'Hallmark', but, really, once you dive into that cold river of doubt and regret, and start to the warmer side of Living, you find the current is never as bad as you thought it would be. We regret what we cannot change, but do what we have to do, to be happy--learn from it all.
If you stay in a relationship that is not working for you, then you are Not moving towards the one that Will!
Roll on, Little Rock!
Truly,
Cupcake
Sorry to hear you are not happy tonka! It does suck to be in this position. Which guy is this that you are talking about? I'm so sorry, but I am with the others in that I don't recall you mentioning a specific one.
But pick up and move on! There are plenty of fish in the sea!
When you close one door there's always one ready to be opened by you, when you are ready.... Each day things will look a little better...
Sunshine
uh, thanks, everyone. It's a guy I spotted at match last November and he was the only one I subscribed the service for! It's not anything like he's flirting with other women or anything like that. We haven't really got into the level I can describe him as my sweetheart. He's been very busy with his dying Mom, little sister's wedding etc. etc.,
The wedding was last wkend and I didn't talk with him for 10 days or so - I know he was super busy, but still, it looked odd to me that he didn't even call for a minute to say what was going on. (Of course, he hasn't introduced me to his sister or I was not in the picture of the family event, which is o.k.) We saw at least once a week in these few months and we slept together, but it was always like sleeping, and taking off to work or something to do in the morning right away, and I just didn't feel we shared a good soul-to-soul talk or anything like that, although when he was with me, he was always sweet. He hardly called me, which made me hesitate to call him, too. I felt like it was only when he had nothing else to do - I wrote a little about it, then, his response was simply he was depressed (to what, I don't know.) and would call me. I couldn't take his call(just didn't feel like starting an argument or a blame game), so I just simply wrote him off, saying I didn't feel his feeling to me was there.
Sex was great, but hmm..I just don't want to be his sex friend!
I'll take a break and start looking again. Uh, yea, this sucks. It was hard not to go shopping spree, which I sometimes do when I'm depressed... got a large french fries instead for lunch. :)
Hi Tonka,
I have felt, with two diff men that I was just 'female companionship' and nothing more. Get a girl puppy! They want you to be available when They want you, but you can never really feel much of a connection when the contact is sparse.
The one I broke my Rule with, because he made me feel it was a good idea (Ha!--but, ultimately, my bad!) has now begun to call again, but honestly, I have lost my 'drive' there. What happened was "good", but not 'connected', if ya know what I mean. When I quit all contact, here he comes again because I am not jumping to answer his calls. He called last night when I was on a nice date with new Tall Guy, and since I did not call Right back...Bam, he calls this afternoon. Too much gaming for me....Too many who WILL appreciate you for all you have to give in an Honest way!
Moving on sounds good....as whatever pace serves you!
Truly,
Cupcake
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WOW, exactly! exactly! I meant the feeling of mental connection! Thanks for telling me that. Now I think I dumped him for the right reason... hmm..
So do YOU ever go out w/ this guy again?
Tonka
If the sex is good, dang right! If you have too many feelings for him that may not work. If you can somehow put the shoe on the other foot so to speak, it could work in your favor.
KITB
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