Too Close to Home

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Registered: 05-06-2006
Too Close to Home
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:26pm

I would really like to know if other people have had the experience of getting OLD matches from people that work or live near them and/or have friends in common. I now have three guys I've been in contact with through OLD who are somehow connected to my work. This didn't happen when I did OLD last year. I hope it is just coincidence.

Elsa

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Registered: 06-08-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Mon, 01-22-2007 - 11:53pm

I have not really had anyone pop up connected to my work, but I have gone out with two guys that knew my ex-BF. Talk about weird!

YG

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 1:20am
Nope, not even close.

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Registered: 12-13-2003
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 10:29am

Ha ha well I've got some stories here :-)

On two different occasions while talking to guys online I confirmed that they lived in the same condo building as I (two different buildings) . . . one right now is my neighbour :-) Thankfully neither were crazy freaks (at least all evidence so far).

Another guy one time we were chatting and we were going over what we'd done that weekend. Both of us had been out with friends and he told me the circuit he'd done which was identical to mine (and it seemed to coincidental cause one of the places was way out of the way and not often frequented). Well it turned out we were with the SAME group . . . (I'd been invited with a co-worker and her friends) . . . and we'd both been checking each other out . . . I mean on the way home that night he finagled his way to sitting beside me but we'd both been shy in person so nothing happened. BUt once we got online we laughed over it and went for dinner :-) It didn't go anywhere and couple years later I learned that he had broken his neck while mountain biking and is now paralzyed from the neck down.

Finally . . .I'd exchanged several emails with a guy and knew what company he worked for etc (had a pic). One day I pulled into the parking lot of my condo complex and a truck followed me in . . . pulled up beside me and a man got out and asked me directions. Of course he was HOT and I looked like absolute slobby crap that day :-) Anyway I had a feeling but didn't let on . . . later via email I asked him if he had happened to ask directions of a cute little blond in a white convertible that day . . . and he said yeah he had and he'd thought it might be me. I still see him around town or at the coffee shop every now and then.

Now yes - -- I live in a fairly small town . . . but not THAT small :-)

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Registered: 04-29-2003
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 10:39am

Yes, before I met my current BF I had a guy wink at my that I deal with everyday at work.

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Registered: 05-06-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 10:53am

Yeah, that could be uncomfortable. Though I suppose in real life we meet people from the same circle all the time.

Elsa

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Registered: 05-06-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 10:58am

It's a tough call for me. When I did Match last year, I didn't get any guys interested in me who had a lot of similar interests/backgrounds. My only two interesting e-harmony matches (which turned out not to be interested in me) were with guys in my line of work, one of whom I knew of distantly, but they weren't in my same town. Now I am getting a lot of matches really connected to my work, and that makes me a little nervous. On the one hand, we have a working community in common. On the other hand, I guess I'd like to keep work and play separate. On a third hand (hey, why not? you can lend me a hand, can't you?) at my age, over-educated and over-weight, I'm grateful for finding just any guy who is intelligent and interesting and interested in me. If I start ruling out people I might run into in regular life, that narrows a small pool even more.

Elsa

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Registered: 05-06-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 11:03am

Oh Barbarahelene, those are *great* stories. So I am not alone in being haunted by "connections" in my OLD. My town isn't all that small either. It's just beginning to seem that way!

Elsa

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Registered: 08-12-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 1:22pm

Hi, elarisa.

While I've only been on a dating site for a little while, I haven't come across someone from work...yet!...and I hope to keep it that way! lol.

SP is right that you don't know who's viewing you - possibly people at work. That's why I keep my profile unsearchable - the place where I work is conservative and they view OLD as being desperate.

I know this doesn't answer your post. Just wanted to share with you. :)

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Registered: 09-27-2004
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 4:07pm
My current boyfriend I met online lives a block and a half away from me and I had no clue when I wrote to him on match. I actually find it quite convenient. But I do know what you mean that if things don't work then you will probably run into that person time and time again, but sometimes if you really like that person it's ok to take that risk.
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Registered: 05-01-2006
In reply to: elarisa
Tue, 01-23-2007 - 5:56pm

Hi elarisa,

A few months before I met my now-fiance through OLD, I met a coworker of his at a party held by a friend of mine in another city. My fiance, we later found out, had also briefly dated the best friend of one of my coworkers. And this is in two very different workplaces in a city of a million-plus people.

So it is a small world...

-Gail

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