too direct I need advice

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Registered: 09-09-2003
too direct I need advice
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Sat, 07-29-2006 - 10:45pm

A guy I met online was v interested but I was not. We became good friends and were physically so attracted to each other we ended up in FWB situation. As I got to know him I started thinking maybe we should give it a try. not LTR right away but at least consider it. He had lost his job and became v distant and uncomfortable around me and made me feel so awkward. we grew apart and did not see each other for the past 3 months.
Recently he got a good job and sounded more upbeat and happier. He suggested that we meet next week. We would always chat once a week or more.

I would like to meet him for sure but I want him to know I m not only looking for a FWB. I want something exclusive and more emotional... I dont know whether it will work between us but at least I want to give it a try.

Any recommendations as to how to start this conversation? should I wait for him to initiate a move to tell him I dont want just sex? I m sure he is expecting sex when we meet (it happened many times b4 that we stop seeing each other for a while then bang the first evening together we are in bed and it s amazing)
I m a direct and confident person so I m looking for some help to be not too direct and still get my message across.

Edited to add:
not that it is wrong being direct but it can have negative effects(at least at work) so I want a more flexible approah.




Edited 7/29/2006 10:52 pm ET by juliara2003
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 9:48am

Well- I never had a FWB sitatation .... although possibly with my young boy (28) from Boston, i do?

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Tue, 04-23-2013 - 10:21pm

 

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