Too good to be true....???
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| Fri, 06-23-2006 - 9:06pm |
Hello Ladies ,
I would like your opinion about this email I got today: this guy sounds too good to be true. I have never gotten an email of this nature before. I doubt a doctor (in his late 30’s from California (who is VERY handsome from “his”/ or the pictures in his backstage) has to use Lavalife to find dates so, my instincts are telling me “someone is playing me. Plus, I don’t consider myself as beautiful … much less “ darn gorgeous” or sexy” … Give me a break…. So, I just would love to hear what you would think, if you were in my shoes and had received the following email:
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Subject:There must be a typo:
Now there must be a typo... It says you are 30 but that's impossible since every 20 year old woman can only fantasize of looking 1/2 as sexy as you:)
Usually I dont write someone based upon what they look like, but you are so darn gorgeous that I couldn't help myself:)
By the way, I'm xxxx. I'm a xxx year old doctor who just finished my last year of hell a few years ago(I mean fellowship, sometimes I forget:) I just moved out to California from the East Coast a couple of years ago, and love it. I finally get to put my convertible top more than just 4 times a year:)
Now I know you live a few miles away. I love to travel, I'm not bound to any area, and just couldn't resist emailing you. Plus I've flown thousands of miles to meet a woman that I click with.... And I was just in your area last week for a conference (we have at least 4-5 conferences there a year:), too bad I didn't see you online before now:(
(Winnie adds :I live in Canada..... he lives in california HELLLLO ;-)
Now I'm sure you are told this all the time, but you are absolutely beautiful, and yes, I'm sure hear it all the time:)
I'm attaching my backstage pics. Let me know if they go thru. For some reason they scanned a lot smaller on this site. If you'd like I can email them to you, and a few others that aren't on here. I'd love to take a peek at yours:) Also I was wondering if you have any online chat programs? I have yahoo and msn messenger. I'd love to chat online one night if you're up for it.
Take care.
his name )
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A part of me wants to reply something along the line of “Are you kidding me, I only look naïve.” my second option is to simply send a normal reply… just to see how it goes �� without any expectations. Or drop it there are way too many red flags for it to be real.
Thanks again for your input
Winnie
Edited 6/23/2006 10:16 pm ET by funnywinnie10

My feeling about this is that whether the guy is telling the truth or not (and I suspect he is at best exaggerating a few things) he is not looking for a relationship that involves meeting and eventually getting together on a permanent basis. Now I may be wrong. But the whole thing feels like someone who wants a penpal/online friend.
I was struck by his use of the term "fellowship." Among the MD's I know in the States, the term most commonly used is "residency." ("Fellowships," as I understand it, don't involve "hell.") Maybe some of the folks in the medical profession here can comment on that.
If I were you, I'd reply more-or-less normally but distinctly un-impressed. As in "I know you are exaggerating about a lot of things--including my youthfulness and beauty, but I found your e-mail intriguing." And see what happens.
Sounds like it might be fun anyway.
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By fellowship he might have meant postdoctoral fellowship, I think in the medical field they are called post-doctoral fellows. I have had several friends in that status, and it can be quite intense, from what I observed.
Ah! Yes, "post doctoral fellowship" makes sense. Except that not _everyone_ does it, so his reference to it as a routine part of medical preparation made it sound odd to me. That _would_ explain the timing, which was also bothering me a little.
(And I maintain that someone engaged in an "intense" stage of career education, especially medicine, is not going to have a lot of time to run across the country to meet someone who attracted him.)
It sounds like it might be fun to talk to the guy anyway.
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Yes, that's true. And I agree that the guy sounds a little "show-offish", I particularly didn't like what he wrote about his "convertible." But I guess Winnie could give him the benefit of the doubt until she gets to know him better.
Thanks for all of your insight ladies..... It seems that "we" have picked up on the same odd details i.e. the fellowship/hell comment and the mention about his car.... As one of you said it might be fun, so I will "bite" and sent a "casual" reply to his email. I will keep you "posted" on his reply.
Have a good one.
Winnie
I think he's full of crap. It's a scam of some sort or another and I'd ignore it.
One question- did he say "I was just in YOUR AREA" or did he actually say "I was just in Toronto/Vancouver/Quebec" (in other words, did he use the name of your town/city)?
Because if he said "your area", that's really weird, and it's probably a form letter. He doesn't have to change anything in it.
But think about it- if you live in Toronto, wouldn't he just say "Hey, I was just in Toronto last month!" instead of "I was in your area"? Unless he thinks that all of Canada is "your area" LOL
No, next him. It's a fake and he's not into you. If you get an answer, you'll see- sooner or later something will be complete BS.