too good to be true?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
too good to be true?
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Sat, 02-05-2005 - 11:13am

There's been plenty of talk about how, if someone has to SAY they are honest it may be a clue that they're not... etc. Just curious what y'all make of this email I received. The first thing that gets me is the sheer length of it. The mention of sex in first contact is a red flag too. And I'm a cat/small animal person so the husky & lab would be a dealbreaker for me... but still thought this could make an interesting discussion?

Maybe some warnings for the newbies who get this kind of message?

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My name is xxxxx from xxxxx.... I am a very sweet kind caring man with a good heart and personality. I work full time and attend xxxxx majoring in web design. I am the kind of guy who will do anything for the girl I love, make you soup when your sick, hold you and wipe your tears when you’re sad and you never need a reason to call me because you come first. I don’t base a relationship on sex, when we go out we take turns deciding what we do, when we are intimate we go slow teach and cherish and keep everything we do between us the most important thing to me is making you happy Your always welcome to call me anytime and your never a bother. I don’t force or control and u have a right to do what ever you want but if u gave me your heart we have to be honest open and faithful, as long as your honest open and true to me I wont get upset, if u lie to me if u avoid telling me something I will get upset, also, you can call me anytime u need me 1am or 1pm and I will come over to be with you. I like to hang with friends, bowl ,pool, concerts, movies, hang with friends or family and like to do anything fun. I don’t club, party, I don’t smoke, don’t do drugs and drink sometimes and want the girl I am with to accept that. I dress preppy casual, like all music except hard rap, I drive a 1997 ford thunderbird and I have a husky and a lab. I am seeking a long term relationship with someone who wants to settle down and who’s not interested in games. I want a girl who is not wild, or into clubs party’s who does not smoke or do drugs and drinks from time to time. I am very eager to talk to you and I hope you feel the same.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 8:09pm

I agree with the other posters.

Linda
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Registered: 11-29-2004
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 9:20pm

Wow. He talks like an abuser. I'd give it ten to one that he's already a batterer. Three lines gave me a really weird feeling down my back.

"We keep everything we do between us..." Does he just have a history of telling tales or is he going to do things the woman really ought to tell someone about?

"I don't force or control, BUT..." then he starts laying down the law.

"If you lie to me or avoid telling me something I will get upset." Yeah, and then what?

Interesting case study. People are amazing.

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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 9:26pm
Wow, very interesting and perceptive, wild!
Linda
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Registered: 07-24-2004
Sat, 02-05-2005 - 11:22pm
I agree possibly about it being written and pasted. I also think it is possible he is genuine and new to online dating. It is so hard to tell. I would see what a next communication would be like if I were to get one like that.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 02-06-2005 - 12:44am
I didn't read everyone else's posting, so someone might already say this... my instant impression: he's so insecure. He's begging the person to tell all for him and he will come over any time because he wants to feel himself needed. This kind of over-kindness is something you do to only those you feel extremely important, and it's not the thing to say: you just do it when you just want to do. insecure, timid, I have nothing else to call, although I'm sure he thinks his profile nailed his good side down to many women.

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