too many phone calls and texts!!!!
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|Sun, 10-25-2009 - 9:24pm|
So the guy I wrote about who is separated, who will be divorced as soon as the house sells ..... calls, texts and views my profile ALL. THE. TIME. We both said we want to take things slow. I think his idea of slow is not getting married in 3 months like his 2nd marriage!
Our first meet went well. We seem to have a lot in common, he seems like a nice guy and is successful in his business (as evident in each date he shows up driving a different type of vehicle!). Second date, things continue to go well. Although he disclosed some childhood abuse.... I have a therapy background and sometimes people just tell me stuff. Me thinking - ok....he didn't go into detail, I had asked about contact with his family, etc. Just be aware of boundary issues, etc.
Before we met, he said he only talks with/dates one person at a time, takes down his profile. After our 2nd date, he did take down his profile.
He then proceeds to either call or text me every day. One text I ignored because it was late and we just got off the phone after a 45 minutes conversation. So 2 hours later, I get another text saying "no response :( ....... I'm like wtf.
He asked me out again during the week, I had to cancel due to a work meeting. He calls, I can't answer, swamped at work. We text a couple of times during the day. That night I get a voice message "I don't understand, really want to get to know you, like you, attracted to you, please let me know what's going on, I don't want to be a pest" all in a poor me voice. An hour later a get another message "not sure if you're getting my messages..."
So I call him back to have a "talk" about taking it slow, which means not taking down my profile, talk every few days, etc. He said ok, he wants to take it slow too. We made plans for this past Saturday night. I was to call him Saturday morning. So, he puts his profile back up (good!), but then views mine every day! and then calls me Friday night. I return his call Saturday morning, we go out Saturday night (last night). AS soon as we get to dinner, he brings up "please tell me how often you want to talk, how do I get in touch with you, blah, blah, blah. I reiterated taking it slow, I only want ANY form of communication every several days!!!!! Needless to say, I was very guarded all night, ended the night early. Had him drive me back to my car. We left it as I would be in touch with him, as HE SAID "you contact me". (I am legitimately swamped at work right now).
Can I be anymore clear??? Apparently not.....because today he texts me twice and views my profile again!
I do believe this is a Red Flag! Agree?
I can reason away WHY he is doing this, but it doesn't change the fact that he IS doing this.
Aarrrgghhhh! It's too bad because we have many things in common, and he seems like a funny guy/can laugh at himself WHEN he isn't acting so needy. The physical attraction didn't knock my socks off, but I think it could of grown. But now.... I want to scream "LEAVE ME ALONE!!!!"
Thanks for listening.