Too much info...is it a turn off??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Too much info...is it a turn off??
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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 12:23pm
I started emailing a new guy last Monday...emailed a few times, he gave me his phone number..I called him yesterday..we talked for almost 2 hrs!! I know, I know..that's too long but I could not get him off of the phone! He talked so much. I now know how many rings his phone rings before it goes to the answering machine, I know all about his truck, his lawnmower, his plans for early retirement, ...the list goes on!!
I finally said "we've been talking awhile, I need to go pick up my son". He said "yes we have been talking awhile, that's a good sign!" Arggghh...maybe not!
And (I know they're supposed to do this..) he actually read my profile and told me he makes alittle less than what I put down in my criteria! I said "oh that's just a base line, I actually forgot what I put down!" He was very thorough..
I'm alittle put off for some reason. He said he'll call me tonight but I'm not going to let it go as long this time. It's kinda a turn off. Anyone else have this happen??
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Registered: 05-19-2005
Mon, 06-13-2005 - 12:44pm

Yeah, it can be a turn off. I've met a few people who were like that and while it was nice they felt comfortable in talking to me- at the same time, a little discretion never hurt, you know?

Let's save all the good stuff for later on. Reveal too much too soon and the novelty wears off faster!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 10:09am
okay..so after talking with him on the phone Sunday he called me Monday night but I let it go to the voice mail. I emailed him yesterday to say hi. Well, he sent me an email this morning saying "good morning, hoping you have a great day and that when things aren't going the best here at work I think of you and I.".....blech.
I mean, he's a very nice guy but we haven't even met yet...don't get mushy on me already!!! I'm not even sure I'm 100% interested or not. It's only been a couple of emails and a phone call. I'm going to hold off responding.
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Registered: 10-27-2003
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 12:09pm
I sense a "NEXT" coming on.
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Registered: 10-26-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 1:04pm

Hi Donna,

Agree with Libra...throwing down a "we", before there IS a 'we' is a bit much. This reminds me of the one I went out with about 1 month into OLD. We had a nice date, then I called him on his way home, at 1am, as he had an hour's drive and had consumed 3 beers, so I was just being thoughtful. THAT got me a conversation until Five a/m and he said he would put an engagement ring on my hand, as he did not want me back online, I was What he wanted in a mate...I Never got the chance to see, from my side,as that screamed "Next", to me. Duh, yeah, Cupcake!

You might continue to field calls and keep things minimal, and meet only if you feel comfy with it...he might be excited as he has not met someone as charming as You! Your call, but if you back off and he Rushes forward, or gets snappish about it...Ding! Next!

Tall Man and I got to exclusive rather quickly, but agreed it would be a slow, steady walk, hand in hand, to where we are going, and that has been Wonderful.

Good luck!

Truly,
Cupcake

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Registered: 04-19-2004
Wed, 06-15-2005 - 5:12pm
Its even worse on a first date and there is no escape. The last date I went on the guy had diareah of the mouth, he was so nice but good lord, we met at 7, at 15 mins after 10 I said we should really get going (I still had a 30 min ride how and I was exhausted) and I STILL didn't get into my car until 11. UGGH!