Too much too soon?

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Too much too soon?
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 12:26am

been on 2 dates with this guy and chatted on the phone about 6 times and emailed a lot.
I said in other posts that I felt very attracted to him the minute we spoke on the phone and this only became stronger after we met face to face.

We both love the outdoor. I had planned a camping trip with my friends few months back but we were missing one more person so I thought of him since he loves camping.

He came over to my place on date #2 to help me plan the camp reservations... nothing happened but I know he is very interested...

I feel comfortable doing this but would like your opinion. Is it too much too soon? He is aware that we needed this 10th person and he had done camping the weekends before this long one... and its our last chance for a warm camping before the long canadian winter here.
I will be sharing the tent with him . It s the sleeping arrangement decided on by the other organizers. (Since I m the only one who knows him in the group)

would like to hear your honest opinions.




Edited 9/1/2006 12:35 am ET by juliara2003

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Registered: 10-17-2002
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 3:40pm
Yeah, I'd feel weird with the sleeping arrangements.

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Registered: 11-08-2003
Fri, 09-01-2006 - 6:53pm
It sounds a bit too much to me too. I find that jumping in too quickly usually results in a change of heart. I'd rather take my time and get to know a person before a weekend roughing it in close quarters.
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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 10:47pm

Funny comment
According to your logic, jumping in too fast or too slow usually results in a change of heart. this is the reason we (and you) are on this board... so I would not generalize but I respect your opinion about prefering to take it slowly.
When you do camping unfortunately sometimes you end up sleeping in the same tent as people you ve never met. Also when you travel and stay in hostel you sleep in the same room as other strangers.
I feel it will be a bit awkward because I know we are both v. attracted to each other.
So I will not go to bed until I m totally exhausted and ready to sleep within 5 min.
Let us see if I can do that!

Whatever happens I just hope I wont end up having sex with him in the jungle at subzero tempratures :~) It does not seem that romantic after all!

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Fri, 09-01-2006 - 11:55pm

What I meant by jumping in too quickly is simply that it takes some time to really get to know a person. If you throw in sex at the beginning, it has a tendency to cloud the judgement. If you feel you know him well enough to share a tent, then go for it. I just assumed since you posted the question, you must have some misgivings and were asking what others thought.

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Sat, 09-02-2006 - 11:40am
I agree.
heather 5-18-10
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Sun, 09-03-2006 - 9:45pm
Hey, why not just camp with him in the same tent and not have sex? Are we all adults here or what?
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Sun, 09-03-2006 - 10:24pm

Does it matter what we think? What matters is whether or not you're comfortable with the arrangements--are you? If not, have him bunk with another guy. If you are, then just behave if you're not ready for sex.. ;o)


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Registered: 09-09-2003
Tue, 09-05-2006 - 8:51am

Oh! most of you got me wrong! I m asking what YOU would do in this situation because I m curious to know how other people think.

I mentioned in my OP I m COMFORTABLE with my decision so was not looking for approval at all as someone suggested!!

I asked about what you think of sharing a tent with "stranger" but someone replied with a general statement: when you have sex too soon, chances of success of the relationship become slim.
This is nothing related to my posting but I replied because I believe that having sex later can be bad as well! Few times I was spared the pain of getting attached to someone I knew we were not physically compatible... A friend of mine had sex with her HUSBAND the first day they met. So I personally believe sex is not a factor this way in the success...

Anyway, camping was great, sharing the tent was not bad either(No sex btw)
I now like him even more and all my friends do too so it is a good sign :~)

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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 9:48am
I didn't respond to the post earlier but I'm really glad you had a fun time and that the trip seems to have pulled you two a bit closer and gave you a better chance to get to know each other.
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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 11:05am

Good, I'm glad it turned out well and even seemed to bring you closer.

heather 5-18-10

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