Top profile turn offs

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Registered: 08-10-2005
Top profile turn offs
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Mon, 10-03-2005 - 5:01pm

Keeping in mind that this is totally individual in nature....what are your top three turn offs in a profile?

Mine---
pics without shirts when there is no water in sight (ie pool, lake etc). If you are in your bathroom,livingroom, or other room without a shirt I will say NEXT.

Roommates, lack of profession, or student status.

Children. (I have none, want none, dont relate to them)

You LOVE the outdoors.

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:07am

  • A guy who writes about how busy he is working two jobs and going to school or whatever, so he has "no time for something serious."

  • Photo features a close-up of him with his mouth wide open and face all scrunched up in the "WAZZUUUUUUUUP!!!!!!" expression, offering a complete view of his tongue piercing.

  • Photo with a cigarette/cigar in his mouth or hand

  • Unclear photos

  • Wants only slender or athletic/toned for body type

  • Talks too much about artsy stuff

  • Ad reads like a Shakespeare play - too "poem"-y

  • Ad riddled with spelling, grammar, and punctuation mistakes

  • Pictures of him posing with model-type girls

  • Lifestyle seems to revolve around sports and fitness activities - nothing wrong with doing those things occasionally but I'm not interested in getting up at 6 am on a Sunday morning and biking a mountain trail or going to the gym every day.

  • Specifically hates country music - my last TWO boyfriends haven't been fans,

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 11:22am

I think everyone else said it all...one more: guys in silly pictures or pics of their dogs or little kids.

When I was online dating I just shook my head and wondered about some of these people.

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Registered: 07-20-2001
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 12:12pm
I'm beginning to see a trend with their "kid situations". I have no children, don't want any, and would actually prefer to date someone who doesn't have kids still at home. However, that also narrows your prospects for people. If I met a guy who made no time for his kids, I probably wouldn't be interested in him. Likewise, I have problems understanding why a guy would put his profile on a dating site and then make it clear that he has little to no time to date due to his job &/or parent responsibilities. I'm not saying slack on either of those issues, but it is something to think about when you are meeting people. If their kids are at home, even part-time, it is something I think twice about.
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Registered: 04-15-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 12:28pm

This is just from a 2-minute look at pictures from my area:

Guys who say they're in their 30s but are OBVIOUSLY in their 50s

Baseball cap, bandana - even a sombrero! (so we won't know they're bald, right?)

Pictures with women or kids (even a newborn!)

Holding cell phone or drink

Shirtless and/or guys who look like pro-wrestlers

Crossed arms (bad body language - very UNinviting)

And sometimes I really feel like I'm looking at criminals' mugshots; creepy...

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Registered: 05-23-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 1:14pm
Hehehe...The Mugshot photos. Scary. I got a wink from a guy once wearing one of those prison blue shirts standing in front of a white wall with this totally unsmiling kind of wild eyed look that freaked me right out. I didn't even read the profile.
Then there are the shirtless tattooed guys standing in front of their cars. But yet, if he's standing in front of a Harley...I'm riveted;P
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Tue, 10-04-2005 - 1:56pm

My list (warning, long):

Agree about every picture with dark sunglasses – why even bother putting a pic up as you can’t tell what they look like.

If the pic is so blurry and I question whether there is an attraction either A. I’ll ask for another or B. delete if I wasn’t that thrilled with the profile.

Someone who seems egotistical; brags about himself and accomplishments – I like um a bit more modest/humble – confidence is key not egomaniacs, ha!

Anything referencing sex – c’mon, it’s a given guys do we need to advertise it?

Smokers

More than two kids (I prefer none but once in a while I’ll check it out)

Separated or divorced for less than a year

Dates 18-100 – agree on that, c’mon! :-)

Makes less than me, next!

Roommates (I go back and forth, if it’s to help him pay a mortgage that’s fine but if he’s 44 and lives in an apartment with a roomie then yes a turn off)- I have a roommate yes, but it's nice to date a guy who doesn't so when we get more serious well, we don't have to MUFF our mouths, ha! :-)

Hates little dogs or dogs for that matter.

I don’t get the whole cat things with guys but not a total deal breaker, girls and cats I understand.

If he lives with snakes, geckos and crickets – NEXT (sorry, couldn’t resist, ha)! ;-)

Long Hair – no thanks, like um clean cut.

Articulate - slight accents ok but prefer none.

Too dry of a humor where I don’t get it – next!

Argumentive or seems too critical – NEXT

Long walks on the beach – can we get a little more creative guys, do chicks still fall for this? Ha! I like them but wouldn’t write it down, c’mon!

Talks about how kids and parents adore him – hmmm, maybe the opposite (silly grin)

Drug users – NEXT

Party boys – NEXT

Doesn't want kids in the future - NEXT

Visible tattoos or any piercings – NEXT ;-)

Thrill seekers (bungee jumping, jumping off cliffs into the ocean, drives fast cars or bikes) – NEXT!

ADD men, can’t sit thru a movie or long dinner – NEXT

Yep, guess I’m pretty picky too, smiles. Maybe I’ll be single a while, sigh.

SP




Edited 10/4/2005 3:10 pm ET ET by small_peanut2005
 
 
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Registered: 09-14-2005
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 2:41pm
Just curious about the roommate thing. Don't you have a roommate per the cable thread below?
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Registered: 04-03-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 6:26pm

Amateur Romance Novelists - "Imagine you lying in my arms as we embrace for a passionate kiss while watching the flames of the fire dancing with the beat of the ocean waves." Puke. I feel gross after reading these. Ewwww.

I'm 31. I'm grossed out equally when winked at by guys old enough to be my dad and guys that are aren't even old enough to buy alcohol.

Short, underemployed, shirtless and/or bald with cigarettes in their hands.

I hate it when guys put pictures of themselves with their kids. Yes, your kids are adorable and it's okay to be proud, but you're trying to pick up ladies and it's sort of a puppy dog effect, "awww...look at my kids." Kids shouldn't be used that way.

People with kids. I love kids and want my own but I don't want to deal with someone else's baby mama drama for the rest of my life. Yes, I know I'm eliminating a large group of guys but I tried it once and I was sorry for it.

God and sex on the first page of a profile are big no-no's for me too.

Putting up pictures with other women is just dumb. I don't know if that's your sister or your ex-wife. I swear one guy posted his actual wedding photo...white tux, white rose and you could catch the arm of his ex-wife's wedding dress wrapped around his arm. Either you are just clueless or you want me to know that at one time...you actually got a lady to stand next to you. This goes double for guys who post photos of themselves posing with what are certainly Hooters Girls or promo girls at parties.

Guys who write what other people think of them. I was winked at by a guy who said "other peope say I am a very attractive and sensual person." Really? Someone actually said, "Hey, you're sensual!"

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 7:33pm

1) Male 45 seeks female 25-40.
(Most of the men in the 40-47 range in my area seem to scale their age ranges for potential dates younger than themselves...Not even at/to their age, but below.)

2) Lots of stuff about the outdoors.

3) Pictures with their kids.
(Those pics are nice, but I think they can wait until later on, after two people start chatting or meet.)

 
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Registered: 11-05-2003
Tue, 10-04-2005 - 8:12pm

Okay, here are my turnoffs...

1) Poor grammar & spelling.
2) Mentions not liking cats.
3) Smoking
4) Talks about nothing BUT his kids.
5) Incomplete or short profiles.
6) Pictures of him partying or wearing a wifebeater. Sorry, but it makes most guys look trashy.
7) Covered with tattoos or piercings.
8) Sexual or religious mentions.
9) Has to include either "average" or "a few extra pounds" (preferably both) as women he'd date. Even when I'm athletic, I don't want to date a guy who wouldn't date me when I was a little meatier.
10) No photo.

I'm probably forgetting a lot, but these instantly come to mind.