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| Fri, 07-15-2005 - 10:25pm |
Today me and my pen-pal Ken emailed during the day to confirm date #3 on Thursday.
| Fri, 07-15-2005 - 10:25pm |
Today me and my pen-pal Ken emailed during the day to confirm date #3 on Thursday.
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Hi Sparkle,
I know that it's un-nerving and a little scarey in the beginning stages of dating a guy, to find out whether you will both want to continue dating each other or not, but hang in there OK? It sounds like this may have potential. You were not repulsed by each other and both want to see each other again, so that is good. He was nice about paying for the meal, which was nice.
Don't let your past relationships make you feel like there could be a replay, this is a differernt guy and a totally different situation! Just remember what you learned from any past mistakes in relationships, but don't let them take a hold of you and keep you thinking like it could happen again. You learned from them and will be just fine! Get out of past mode and into now mode! This is the newer you that has learned from your past!
Just relax and let things happen here. I know that we, as women, tend to get into our over-anayzing mode, but you have to stop it and just role with the flow here. No matter what happens you are a great lady and deserving of a great guy! This may not be the one, but maybe he is! Isn't it worth pursuing in case he is the right one?!
Hang in there and have fun, OK? Best of luck to you Sparkle!
Sunshine
"It's funny when I am feeling a certain way I am convinced that the guy must think that too. I am confused and uncertain so I am sure he feels the same."
I wouldn't bet on that at all. Guys aren't wired like us and unless he says that's how he feels, I wouldn't *assume* anything.
Hi Sunshine-
Thanks, I plan on going with it and seeing where it leads.
Just wanted to update everyone on what happened with this guy...he emailed me the day before our date and canceled it saying he wanted to "reschedule for next Thursday" and I thought this was BS - his way of getting out of it.
You went with your gut not mine but I probably would have said “ok, just give me a call when you’re able to schedule something” and left it at that. He may have been busy – I think the biggest mistake we make off of OLD is assuming the worst. There is always that chance you’re wrong .....
I’ve told this story before but I’ll tell it again.
I was with my ex BF on a boat with his friends. One of the guys on the boat bumped into this girl in front of our (the groups) eyes. Lipstick went straight on his collar. This one gal turned around and said “ya know, if my BF came home with lipstick on his collar and told me some girl bumped into him I wouldn’t believe him and break up” now I know that sometimes those types of stories are true. The moral, until you know for sure he’s not interested DON’T ASSUME. Even if you you decided not to see him again you come off sounding bitter by this note & he may very well have called you but when he saw this thought not too – some things are better left silent. Like I said, keep dating and don’t wait for one, if they come around great if not no hard feelings. However I’m very much rooting for you as you deserve some happiness – just wanted to give my two cents for future dates as I’d like to see you meet a nice guy.
Cheers,
Ms. Peanut
Good arguments girls, but I wouldn't have been happy with someone who just wasn't excited to be with me.
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