Truth or Dare?
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Truth or Dare?
| Thu, 02-16-2006 - 9:51pm |
This guy I used to date 2 years ago is now on match.com. He does not mention that he has a kid. How would you react? (It's not my kid.)
P.S. I want to date him again.
P.S. I want to date him again.

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What does he have in the section about kids - "I'll tell you later" or "None". If it was "None" and I came to find out even very early on that he did have kids, I would NEXT him in a heartbeat because that is a big thing to lie about.
Why did you break up? You need to consider the circumstances of why that happened before you consider dating him again. If it was an amicable breakup where it just happened, then there is no reason to not contact him again and see how he's doing and go from there. If it was in the slightest bit ugly on either side, then I would not contact him if I were you. If there was a good reason for it, it will likely happen again.
Sorry, but he sounds shady to me. Like I said, if I came to find out that someone lied about having kids - that's huge. Doesn't matter if he put he definitely WANTS kids, he already has them. That's awful to lie about - maybe he figures there are women his age that don't want to date guys with kids. If he's younger, that's probably true. I'm 35 and I'm resigned to the fact that I may likely find someone with kids but I prefer to not date anyone with kids over the age of 10 (no teenagers please). Anyway, he's pulling the wool over women's eyes to get more responses and IMO, that's unforgivable.
But seriously, he wasn't into you enough to call for TWO weeks. And now he's not enough into you to meet you just because - he has to have an excuse. It sounds like a cop out to me and an excuse to NOT get together. What's good about this? Why do you want to date him again? Find someone that will treat you better and actually make time for you. Definitely bring a date to St. Patty's and make sure it's not him.
Sorry, I don't want to sound harsh, but you'll find a lot of us are straight shooters out here and tell it like we see it. I don't see anything good here, so there ya go! :-)
Well, if you like jerks, this guy is right up your alley. Why do you like jerks? If you ever have a desire to be in a healthy relationship with a guy that is going to treat you well, it would be a good idea to figure out why you like guys that treat you like dirt.
Most women have some issues with letting go, but there is a point when you have to think about whether or not it's worth hanging on to.
But you don't date his family! :-)
I don't date to just go out either, but I think you have to consider the character of a guy over time. How long did you go out before he just stopped calling? Did you initiate contact with him this go round? What other things do you think he might be lying about if he lied about the fact he has a kid? What do you think his wonderful family would think about him lying about his kid? Believe me, you deserve better so go out and find it!
I met a guy on Match. It said "none" under kids. Then when he sent me photos, they were of him & his 11 yr old dd!
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