Try to stay positive!

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Registered: 04-29-2003
Try to stay positive!
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 10:47am


Morning ladies,


Still dating and haven't met anyone all summer - BUT I'm staying positive.

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 11:26am

Good for you, SP--I am always so impressed by your continued positive attitude!

I am trying to just stay in the moment and enjoy the dates themselves and not have any expectations so I'm not disappointed. I had a 2nd date last night with a guy I had my first date with almost 2 years ago, LOL! I answered his ad on CL and it turned out to be a guy I'd met previously. I agreed to give him another shot if he took me out to dinner and he did last night. It was really nice--he's cute and funny, and 2 hours of conversation flew by. But I'm not allowing myself to get excited because our 1st date was also very good, and he still ghosted, so it would be setting myself up for failure to have any hopes, even though he said he wanted to do it again and sent me an email when he got home. So I'm trying to just enjoy the fact that I had a nice evening out and some good conversation with a good looking guy--and some fantastic bread pudding, LOL!

Sheri

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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 12:32pm

Thanks for the encouraging words SP. Very well said. :) I've been on and off of Match for about 2 1/2 years and have had the same experiences that you have. I just got back on again so we shall see. I know there is one out there but I'm not going to push it.

Jennifer

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Registered: 05-09-2005
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 4:17pm
Thanks Ms. P for the words of encouragement. I'm staying positive and having fun!!!
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Wed, 08-30-2006 - 8:31pm

Hi SP. Great reminder message. I've been dabbling in online dating off and on for two or three years and had decided it just wasn't me. I had only been on about 10 first dates in that time but only one was someone that I was interested in and he didn't call again. I had pretty much given up and then two weeks ago got a message from a man I had chatted with and planned to meet a year ago. At that time he told me he had met someone and wanted to give it a chance and I respected that. We met for coffee and then got together two more times last week. He was away for the weekend but called last night and asked if I'd like to get together on the weekend. No firm plans but I'm quite sure he'll call. He is very nice, easy to talk to and is nice looking. Even if it doesn't pan out, I am a little more positive about dating as I now see there are men out there that seem to have what I'm looking for in a partner.

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Wed, 08-30-2006 - 9:36pm

Thank you SP!

I have only been doing this for two weeks but I can see how it can become draining already. I am still positive although nervous so it is nice to hear a little reinforcement.

Signed,
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