Two questions for a first date

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Registered: 11-14-2005
Two questions for a first date
Tue, 07-13-2010 - 1:29am

I met a guy online recently through e-Harmony. We'd both only signed up for three months and went through the "guided communication" that they have on there, leading up to emails. We've since texted a few times and last night he called me. We talked for a while and set up a drink date for Thursday evening.

Now granted, I haven't met him in person yet, but I think I might really like this one. We've got a lot in common, he's older than I am, we work in the same field, etc.

I don't want to screw this one up. I know that I can come on too strong, like texting or emailing right away after the first date, etc. I don't want to scare him away.

First question: How do I "guarantee" (as much as one can) a second date?

Second question: If things go well, should I wait for him to contact me? I really don't want to scare him off by chasing him, but part of me is always worried that the guy won't call if I don't contact him. (Despite everyone saying that the guy generally prefers to do the "chasing"!)

Thank you!!


iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2010
Thu, 07-15-2010 - 3:27pm

Good advice from Floridagirl!! Just relax and take it one day at a sounds like you know your dating flaws and working on them and I think being overbearing will discourage any man.

Good luck!!