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| Mon, 09-18-2006 - 11:27am |
Somebody stop me...I *know* not to get excited about a guy before meeting, I KNOW this...but there's a guy who's emailing me now who seems right up my alley and I find myself getting WAY too excited about getting his emails (we just started corresponding yesterday and there have only been 3). We're supposed to talk on the phone tonight and I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Ugh. I'm glad to have a "good" prospect, but from experience I'm thinking it's just a matter of time before he either rejects me or I realize there's some dealbreaker involved.
Sheri

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Sheri, I think this might actually be a bit of a compliment. I betcha he's worried he'll be having too much fun to get to sleep early enough. I know this sounds like I'm being naive, but I'm like that. If I really have a good time with someone, I don't trust myself to end the date early and get home and go to bed. I've always been like that, so when I like someone, even if they are just asking me out for coffee, I have to think "hmmm, what do I have to do tomorrow?" I'm not real good at shutting down a good time because of tomorrow (neither is one of my good friends who always yells "nah nah nah nah, live for today" when I say I have to go home!
I think lots of people are like this and that's why so much of dating happens on the weekends....no?
Keep us posted!
Chick
Could be. He did call me at about 9:15 last night and we talked for a while so if he did have another date, it was over early. And he kind of alluded to what you're saying--that he would be having too much fun and wouldn't get enough rest. He also said that he was reluctant to cancel because he was afraid I would get the wrong impression about his interest in me and he assured me that he IS interested, but he just didn't think he'd be at his best so he decided to cancel.
Anyway--he's supposed to call me after he's done with his bike ride today and we may get together. I told him it was ok to leave it tentative since he wouldn't know for sure how he felt until afterwards (I wanted to avoid planning something and being disappointed again if he ended up cancelling).
So we shall see. He did make a comment in passing that I will have to explore a bit with him the next time I see him--when we were talking about him not wanting to give me the impression that he wasn't interested, he said something like, "I didn't want you to think I wasn't interested and make a date with some other guy". I didn't want to get into it on the phone but if he's thinking we should be exclusive after just one date, we need to talk ;-).
Sheri
Thanks...I just responded to another post and as I said I think he might have been thinking along those lines. Time will tell!!!
Sheri
Sheri, I think the comment of you dating another guy was just an off-handed comment letting you know that he likes you. Beware of over-analyzing! If he says it again, then make a comment back and keep it light...
Keep us posted!
Ah, we gals who have dated too much...we are the antithesis of our mothers!!
I have good feelings about this guy, so keep us posted! ;-)
Chick
I can certainly understand that, but what I don't get is why he suggested doing something last night in the first place, and agreed to the coffee/dessert/jazz suggestion (and he asked me to suggest something since he had come up with the plan for Friday night).
That just doesn't sit well with me (agreeing to a plan and then changing his mind). But I'm certainly willing to keep an open mind at this point.
Sheri
I agree.
I've done that suggested something then thought oh crap...I forgot about the race and I really need my z's and if this turns into a long night I'll be paying for it. We all do things that kind of back pedal - thats just being human.
Just to clarify, it's not a race, just a longish bike ride he had planned for today with a friend of his.
I guess I'm still kind of like, well, how hard would it have been to meet me for an hour or two and still be in bed before midnight--but I'm not pissed off at him or anything...I guess I just don't really fully understand why he felt he had to cancel altogether, if he's as enthusiastic about me as he says he is. But that's ok, LOL!!! I figure if it's indicative of something about his personality, or if he's not being completely honest with me, if we continue to see each other, it'll all become clear in time ;-)!
Sheri
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