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| Mon, 09-18-2006 - 11:27am |
Somebody stop me...I *know* not to get excited about a guy before meeting, I KNOW this...but there's a guy who's emailing me now who seems right up my alley and I find myself getting WAY too excited about getting his emails (we just started corresponding yesterday and there have only been 3). We're supposed to talk on the phone tonight and I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. Ugh. I'm glad to have a "good" prospect, but from experience I'm thinking it's just a matter of time before he either rejects me or I realize there's some dealbreaker involved.
Sheri

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Because 2 hours would have more than likely been longer that's why.
No worries, I ain't trippin', LOL! Time will tell...
I'm going to be walking a half marathon with Amjay up in Victoria in 2 weeks (remember her from this board?) so I need to get out there and exercise myself! It's beautiful here today--low 70s and sunny so there's no excuse not to get out other than I just can't quite seem to get motivated, LOL! I did do 5 miles yesterday though so I haven't been a *total* slacker this weekend.
Sheri
Ok, so now I'm back to being really skeptical about this guy. His bike ride was at 3 PM and he said he thought he'd be back around 6 PM and he'd call me then. Well, it's 9 PM and no call.
I'll listen to what he has to say if and when he calls, of course, but I'm not feeling too positive about things at the moment.
Sheri
"He said he THOUGHT he'd be back by 6PM".....keyword "thought"
He may have gone to dinner with his friend but I wouldn't read into it or be waiting or analzying.
Yes, those are all good points, and believe me, I was telling myself all those things last night...but OTOH, I just really prefer dealing with someone who does what he says he's going to do, whether we are friends or business colleagues or dating or whatever. I really thought he did say he was going to call in the early evening, regardless, but that seeing each other was up in the air. So he finally did call around 9:30 and said he was just leaving his friend's house--said he was invited to stay to dinner with his friend and his friend's wife, but he recognized that he should have taken a minute to call me earlier and let me know and he apologized for not doing so. We'll see...I'm not going to ding him for this, but I want to see some action consistent with his words, ya know? He said something last night along the lines of, he hopes I don't think I'm not a priority to him and I didn't know quite what to say so I just kind of said, "ok"...I mean, I'm not sure I *should* be a priority at this point, first of all, and if I am, then he's not showing it very well.
He might just be one of those go with the flow people and I am a planner. Not a dealbreaker, per se, but something that may require some compromise on both sides...of course that is all assuming that we actually ever HAVE our 2nd date and start dating regularly, LOL!
Sheri
I called it – I said he probably went to dinner.
Well, no, that's not actually the case. He said he WOULD call (not that he would TRY to call) to talk about maybe doing something last night, and that he thought he'd be back by six. But I guess, technically, he did what he said he would do (call)...it just was later than he thought it would be ;-).
And yes, *of course* I'm looking for stuff...that's what the dating process is all about!!!! Why wouldn't I be??? I need to figure out if he's a good match for me or not, and his behavior is the best indicator of that. If this is his BEST dating behavior (as most people try to put their best foot forward early on), what's he going to be like down the road?
It's not about whether we *should* have had a 2nd date this weekend or not...I don't disagree with you, necessarily, but that's not the point. Once he created the expectation by suggesting and agreeing to the date for Sat night, and the possibility of going out last night, he should have followed through. Instead, he flaked, not once but twice. That is an indication that he MAY not be reliable and reliability is highly important to me. And so is planning ahead (although not quite as high on the list).
I don't "know" that we will go out again until it happens, and given what happened this weekend, words are cheap at this point.
I think you might think I'm more upset at this point than I am...I'm not, really (I was a bit, last night, before he called, but I'm not now)...it's more that I'm observing his behavior and just going, "hmm, this may or may not work for me". I'm not saying "off with his head!", LOL!
Sheri
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