Unexperienced & lost

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Registered: 08-14-2006
Unexperienced & lost
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Mon, 08-14-2006 - 3:17am

So, after trying online dating for two weeks, I started e-mailing someone. It rarely happens, because I have some weird requirements (not the kind of thing one would lie about, but still things that are hard to find in my home city/country.) We exchanged a few mails and from the third one the guy seemed eager to meet me, which I thought was a good thing since we live in the same city. He said he'd like me to show him interesting places because he's only lived here for a few months. For three other mails we talked about where and how we should meet. He always answered on the next day. And then, all of a sudden, he disappeared for four days.

Finally he e-mailed me today. I guess I was, as usual, being paranoid. Thing is, he always wants to get me to set up the date. I know that's probably just being considerate, but I'm totally not used to that. Having to suggest a date just puts me in the bad position. Maybe it's a cultural thing (let's say we're from, huh, opposite parts of Europe, or what De Gaulle called Europe anyway)...

How long should I wait before e-mailing/texting him now ?

Can I just say 'Tell me what you suggest and I'll see if I can make it' ? He doesn't know the city, so maybe that's holding him back...

Obviously texting him (he asked me to do so) would be giving him my cell phone number. I previously warned him that I didn't give my number easily - but truth is, phones scare me out of my wits. Calling him is just out of the question, although I don't mind being called (it feels less threathening.)




Edited 8/14/2006 8:34 am ET by gaby362

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Registered: 03-16-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 11:26am

OK, don't be PESSIMISTIC and say "it always ends badly" but just be realistic and take it one day at a time.

heather 5-18-10

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