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| Fri, 08-12-2005 - 3:44pm |
Things are going well with me and the guy...we had our first date on a monday, he emailed the next morning and called that night to secure date number 2 on that friday...then we saw each other again on last thursday before I left for vacation, he called twice on vacation and called me today when I got home to set up date 4 for sunday.
Things are going well, he's very sweet, doesn't push me sexually when I say slow down he backs right off (we haven't slept together I just meant kissing and stuff), he's very attentive and complimentary. So we'll see...

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Well a new update. Its pretty much over. Date 4 went well, then got an email later wanting to discuss some things, but then avoided me like the plague, I'm guessing it's because I haven't had sex with him yet and he thinks I am not attracted to him. Don't need another insecure man that needs constant petting. Glad I didn't have sex with him, I'd probably feel worse then I do right now.
Back to the drawing board.
Sounds nice so far! :)
Sara
Read the rest of the thread. :)
amjay
Sorry it didn't work out. Dang! :(
Oh, he was looking for one thing huh? Well, better to find out now then later and yes had you done the deed you would have felt worse.
When I'm dating someone and we got to the point where we are starting to kiss or make out I do make it clear in our conversations then next time i get intimately involved with someone it will be in a committed/exclusive relationship and that is only until we've spent some TIME together (4-6 weeks) to make sure we're a good fit. This way there is no surprises or emails like in your case. But you're right, why should have you have to hand coddle the man.
Sorry and hopefully next time will be a keeper!!!
SP
Edited 8/20/2005 12:03 pm ET ET by small_peanut2005
YOu know what the strangest thing is, he writes me an email telling me there was things that bothered him but he didn't want to go into details, then emails me again asking me not to be mad at him, the reason he never called back is because he thought I was mad at him. WHAT????
I just don't get the guy. I think he's an extemely insecure man and I think he's just too worried about stuff.
Oh he knew exactly why I felt the way I did about sex, I told him, so it shouldn't have been a surprise.
I am even more confused then I was before, he continues to keep emailing me, he says he feels like we don't have chemistry for the long term. SO I said I wish he would have just called me or told me while he was at my house rather than email because it's so impersonal. But good luck in his search basically.
He has emailed me several times after that to say I sounded mad, and that he didn't think I was attracted to him. I'm like completely flabbergasted here...WTF???? is going on?? He just said he didn't feel the chemistry and I said okay good luck yet he doesn't want me to be mad at him so he keeps emailing me saying he feels maybe he has issues that he needs to work on because he wasn't feeling as though I was conveying my sexual desire for him. Oh my god...YA THINK he's a little insecure??? Oh my god....I feel like slamming my head against a wall.
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