Update on 1st meet since my breakup

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Registered: 02-07-2005
Update on 1st meet since my breakup
Mon, 06-06-2005 - 1:12am

Hi Everyone,

Well, I had my first meet this afternoon since my breakup with the guy I had been seeing exclusively since Jan. It felt kind of scary to start doing the meets again! I felt rather like an OLD virgin once again! But once he arrived, I was fine and became my normal happy self.

Unfortunately, there was no attraction or chemistry for me to him. He was a nice enough guy, but that's it. I didn't let my expectations get going beforehand and just saw this meet as practice at getting back into the swing of things, so I really didn't feel disappointment much, well maybe a tiny bit.

We had a nice conversation and I think both knew it wasn't a match. So parting wasn't too uncomfortable. The funny thing was that we started talking about funny OLD things and shared some funny OLD stories. I found myself sharing some things also like about how you can't take it personal when you don't click with someone, as we all have different preferences, and you are still the good person that you are even after the meet no matter what happened during the meet.

He shared a little of his frustration at women giving him their phone number but then not answering the call or returning his call. So I'm not sure exactly what he is leaving as a message, but he does have a soft spoken voice which may not appeal to all women. Part of me wanted to help him to improve his methods or what he says, but I stopped myself! Nope, I can't take in all the strays!

So it's onward and I'm a rollin'!

Sunshine