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| Tue, 05-02-2006 - 2:06pm |
I wasn't sure which emoticon to choose but frazzled seemed like as good as any ;-)...
So, after all of the emails, phone calls and dates over the last couple weeks from my CL ad and Yahoo trial subscription...I'm down to 3 guys, possibly a 4th (but it's not looking promising).
Guy 1, "R"--met on Sat am for the first time, I thought there was real chemistry and interest but apparently I was wrong, since he hasn't called. I know it's just been a few days but if all these dates over the last 8 years or so have taught me *anything*, it's that a guy who's really interested will call and line up that 2nd date pretty much right away. So I'm bumming because I really thought he was cool and interested...oh well. And believe me, there was NO ambivalence about me showing interest in him...in fact, now that I think about it, I was trying to give him heavy hints about lining up another date when we were saying our goodbyes, and he wasn't taking them...I should have picked up on that. I don't think I'm going to hear from him...darn.
Guy 2, "C"--we've had one meet and he cancelled our 2nd one the night before it was going to happen for a rather lame reason...he says he wants to reschedule and has been emailing me but hasn't actually rescheduled yet. So I'm not holding my breath...plus he talked about himself way too much at our first meet.
Guy 3, "W"--we had our 2nd date Sat night and it was pretty good...I like him and I know he likes me, I'm just not sure we're a good match. I think he may be emotionally unavailable and somewhat depressed...and I don't need to go there. Plus he's a smoker (he didn't lie about it when he responded to my CL ad, he just didn't say and I assumed he was a non-smoker since I said that was what I said I wanted in my ad) and I just can't be seriously involved with someone who smokes (and I've told him this). So while I will go out with him again and see how it goes, I don't think there's a big chance it's going to work out.
Guy 4, "M"--he's the one who took me to the jazz club on our first meet; we are having our 2nd date this Thursday. I like him...he really seems like a good guy...stable, smart, sophisticated and just fun to talk with. Two things I'm unsure about though...he's either my height or shorter than me and I'm not sure of my attraction to him (I'm not *unattracted* but I'm not very attracted, either), and he has 4 kids 14 and under--I'm not opposed to dating a man with even young children but 4 just seems overwhelming ;-)! But he's the most promising of the bunch right now...we'll see what happens.
As for the hot musician/athlete, that needs to be over...I haven't seen him for 2 weeks so I'm not even getting sex out of it, LOL! We exchange racy emails but that's as far as it goes...so I'm stopping that. If he wants to talk to me or see me he can call me (but I'm not holding my breath on that--I think he's either reconciled with the so-called ex or has found someone else to replace me as his casual sex partner). I'd like to end it on a good note, but I don't think he's going to have that conversation with me. Oh well. We had some fun and I confirmed, YET AGAIN, that I can't have sex with someone without getting emotionally attached. Hopefully I won't have to bang my head against THAT wall again for another couple years at least ;-).
I've already taken down a couple of my profiles from sites I don't use that often in preparation for my 90 day dating hiatus...I'm either going to start it May 15 or June 1, haven't decided yet. I'll keep seeing whoever is still in the picture at that point but I'm going to take all my profiles down and stop browsing ads even. I figure with the time and emotional energy I save I can focus on getting into better shape for my 30 HS reunion coming up in August ;-), not to mention focusing more on business, etc.
Sheri

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