update on Bad Kisser
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| Sun, 10-09-2005 - 3:51pm |
I started a thread on this board about a week ago about a guy I'd met online who I wanted to stop seeing because he was such a bad kisser. not bad as in different than the way I do it, but *really* bad - like he just didn't understand how to do it at all! Guy in his mid-thirties - didn't any of his previous girlfriends clue him in??
Well, here's the update: I told him today over the phone that I didn't want to continue to go out with him because I didn't think the physical chemistry was right. I think it was a very neutral and tactful breakup. Just before I said this to him, I could tell he was about to offer to take me to dinner for my birthday - something he had suggested the last time we spoke. I quickly intercepted that before it got too awkward, and just let him know that it was over. However, I'd been avoiding calling him back all week, which isn't too cool. I've hated when men have done that to me in the past. I'm pretty sure he had some sense that all was not well...
So - here's what he said to me when I told him I didn't want to continue: well, that's probably for the best because "I don't think we're in the same places in our lives". Apparently the fact that I am planning to go back to school next year is a problem for him?? Ha ha. He also told me that he had met someone else online this week - someone who was in the same line of work as he is. Hmmm. I suspect by sharing this with me he was just trying to make himself feel better about being dumped, heh.
This is the aspect of online dating that I find so icky. I remember when I broke up with my serious live-in boyfriend of three years. We still lived together (until I found another place and moved out, while he kept the apartment because he was broke and unemployed - but that's a tale for another day) for a few weeks after breaking up. During that time he made a point of going online and perusing the women on match.com so that I would see him already "shopping" for my replacement. Yecch. Bleccch!!!!
| Sun, 10-09-2005 - 7:45pm |
| Sun, 10-09-2005 - 8:55pm |
