hey SP, I just read your post regarding your break up and this one. I'm very sorry but you have such a positive attitude that I know you'll get over these two large items quickly.
With that said, your car choice! so difficult. I think you should get the convertible unless you would like a more reliable car - such as an accord. I just got a new car after having a pathfinder for 5.5 years. it was reliable and a good value. then i turned around and got a sports car - hey i deserve it , why not. And a little more expensive than I would have liked to spend, but my thing was - I'm going to truly enjoy this car, so why not spend a little more and be on a budget for the next year?
Anyhow - again I hope you get the car you truly want - and i know you'll be fine w/ the break up. my two cents on your break up - It sounds like the guy got scared or scared himself. I think his maturity level is way below yours - drinking/partying w/ his friends is a sign of avoiding real life most of hte time, esp at the age he is ( i think hes prob 30s, right?) even at my age, late 20s, i think its a bad sign when i or any guy Im dating steps up his partying.
At any rate, know there is a wonderful guy out there for you (and everyone else too!)
Now he's a drunk and a commitment-phobe. Just a couple weeks ago he was a great guy and you were looking forward to a future with him. Two sides to every story and I'm not buying that he was all bad. Just not the guy for you.
Thanks for your positive messages as always. If you read all my posts I say he’s a great guy but the past two months he did a 360 and being optimistic I was hoping it was a faze it’s only natural to share and analyze after a break up. Also, it’s always easier to ‘let go’ when you focus on why you’re probably better off.
Sorry to bring up this pet peeve, but I think you mean 180...if someone does a 360, that's a full circle (i.e., there are 360 degrees in a circle), so they'd be right back where they started. 180 is a half circle, or an about face.
And I actually don't think it's all that unusual for people to do a 180 after 3, 4, 5 months...we hear about it all the time on these boards.
In any event, you sound like you're doing well, hang in there.
I am glad you are still doing okay but that is too bad about the car! Actually in a way maybe it is not so bad b/c after an accident that serious it is hard to get everything back into alignment in a car so this way you will get a new car and not have those worries. Still, it is a hassle - but it sounds like you are handling it nicely.
I just bought a new car and a few good sources of info are Consumer Reports (pick up the new car issue or you can access online for I think $5 or so per month) and edmunds.com. Since you were just in an accident, safety is probably an important consideration so for whatever cars you are considering check out these sites:
One fairly new (I think?) safety feature you may want to get is side airbags which protect you in side impact crashes.
I looked at lots of cars, was very tempted to get an expensive and unreliable Euro car, but in the end I got a Toyota Camry and it is awesome! Very safe, comfy, reliable, smooth ride, has all the features I wanted, and Toyotas have great resale value. I got exactly the car I wanted and got a great deal (I paid $4400 under MSRP and $1600 under invoice). I will tell you what I did; not sure if it works for leasing but it is worth trying. When I knew exactly what I wanted and was ready to buy I emailed several dealers in the area with the exact make, model, color, etc. that I wanted, asked if they had it or could get it, and asked for their best price including ALL charges; within a couple of hours I had responses from several. The dealers in the close-in burbs did not respond; it was the ones a bit further out who did and so I drove 40 minutes and saved thousands (literally - the price I was quoted on the same make/model when I visited the dealer near my house in person was $2000 more than what I paid).
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hey SP, I just read your post regarding your break up and this one. I'm very sorry but you have such a positive attitude that I know you'll get over these two large items quickly.
With that said, your car choice! so difficult. I think you should get the convertible unless you would like a more reliable car - such as an accord. I just got a new car after having a pathfinder for 5.5 years. it was reliable and a good value. then i turned around and got a sports car - hey i deserve it , why not. And a little more expensive than I would have liked to spend, but my thing was - I'm going to truly enjoy this car, so why not spend a little more and be on a budget for the next year?
Anyhow - again I hope you get the car you truly want - and i know you'll be fine w/ the break up. my two cents on your break up - It sounds like the guy got scared or scared himself. I think his maturity level is way below yours - drinking/partying w/ his friends is a sign of avoiding real life most of hte time, esp at the age he is ( i think hes prob 30s, right?) even at my age, late 20s, i think its a bad sign when i or any guy Im dating steps up his partying.
At any rate, know there is a wonderful guy out there for you (and everyone else too!)
Thank you for your kind thoughts regarding my break up.
Thanks for your positive messages as always. If you read all my posts I say he’s a great guy but the past two months he did a 360 and being optimistic I was hoping it was a faze it’s only natural to share and analyze after a break up. Also, it’s always easier to ‘let go’ when you focus on why you’re probably better off.
I know – too funny!!! J
The Small Peanut
Sorry to bring up this pet peeve, but I think you mean 180...if someone does a 360, that's a full circle (i.e., there are 360 degrees in a circle), so they'd be right back where they started. 180 is a half circle, or an about face.
And I actually don't think it's all that unusual for people to do a 180 after 3, 4, 5 months...we hear about it all the time on these boards.
In any event, you sound like you're doing well, hang in there.
Sheri
I am glad you are still doing okay but that is too bad about the car! Actually in a way maybe it is not so bad b/c after an accident that serious it is hard to get everything back into alignment in a car so this way you will get a new car and not have those worries. Still, it is a hassle - but it sounds like you are handling it nicely.
I just bought a new car and a few good sources of info are Consumer Reports (pick up the new car issue or you can access online for I think $5 or so per month) and edmunds.com. Since you were just in an accident, safety is probably an important consideration so for whatever cars you are considering check out these sites:
http://www.iihs.org/
http://www.nhtsa.dot.gov/cars/testing/ncap/
One fairly new (I think?) safety feature you may want to get is side airbags which protect you in side impact crashes.
I looked at lots of cars, was very tempted to get an expensive and unreliable Euro car, but in the end I got a Toyota Camry and it is awesome! Very safe, comfy, reliable, smooth ride, has all the features I wanted, and Toyotas have great resale value. I got exactly the car I wanted and got a great deal (I paid $4400 under MSRP and $1600 under invoice). I will tell you what I did; not sure if it works for leasing but it is worth trying. When I knew exactly what I wanted and was ready to buy I emailed several dealers in the area with the exact make, model, color, etc. that I wanted, asked if they had it or could get it, and asked for their best price including ALL charges; within a couple of hours I had responses from several. The dealers in the close-in burbs did not respond; it was the ones a bit further out who did and so I drove 40 minutes and saved thousands (literally - the price I was quoted on the same make/model when I visited the dealer near my house in person was $2000 more than what I paid).
Hope this helps! :)
Thank you - that's a great idea about the emails.
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