update on car accident and new car?

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Registered: 03-18-2005
update on car accident and new car?
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 2:25pm

Hey everyone,


 
 
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Registered: 08-22-2003
Tue, 05-17-2005 - 11:07pm

hey SP, I just read your post regarding your break up and this one. I'm very sorry but you have such a positive attitude that I know you'll get over these two large items quickly.

With that said, your car choice! so difficult. I think you should get the convertible unless you would like a more reliable car - such as an accord. I just got a new car after having a pathfinder for 5.5 years. it was reliable and a good value. then i turned around and got a sports car - hey i deserve it , why not. And a little more expensive than I would have liked to spend, but my thing was - I'm going to truly enjoy this car, so why not spend a little more and be on a budget for the next year?

Anyhow - again I hope you get the car you truly want - and i know you'll be fine w/ the break up. my two cents on your break up - It sounds like the guy got scared or scared himself. I think his maturity level is way below yours - drinking/partying w/ his friends is a sign of avoiding real life most of hte time, esp at the age he is ( i think hes prob 30s, right?) even at my age, late 20s, i think its a bad sign when i or any guy Im dating steps up his partying.

At any rate, know there is a wonderful guy out there for you (and everyone else too!)

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 12:01am

Thank you for your kind thoughts regarding my break up.

 
 
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Registered: 03-17-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 6:43am
Now he's a drunk and a commitment-phobe. Just a couple weeks ago he was a great guy and you were looking forward to a future with him. Two sides to every story and I'm not buying that he was all bad. Just not the guy for you.
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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 12:55pm

Thanks for your positive messages as always. If you read all my posts I say he’s a great guy but the past two months he did a 360 and being optimistic I was hoping it was a faze it’s only natural to share and analyze after a break up. Also, it’s always easier to ‘let go’ when you focus on why you’re probably better off.

 
 
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Registered: 02-15-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 1:15pm
Yeah - LA, where even the poolboy drives a 760Li.


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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 1:26pm

I know – too funny!!! J

The Small Peanut

 
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 3:19pm

Sorry to bring up this pet peeve, but I think you mean 180...if someone does a 360, that's a full circle (i.e., there are 360 degrees in a circle), so they'd be right back where they started. 180 is a half circle, or an about face.

And I actually don't think it's all that unusual for people to do a 180 after 3, 4, 5 months...we hear about it all the time on these boards.

In any event, you sound like you're doing well, hang in there.

Sheri

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 3:32pm
Mental note - thank you.
 
 
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Registered: 08-07-2003
Wed, 05-18-2005 - 11:00pm

I am glad you are still doing okay but that is too bad about the car! Actually in a way maybe it is not so bad b/c after an accident that serious it is hard to get everything back into alignment in a car so this way you will get a new car and not have those worries. Still, it is a hassle - but it sounds like you are handling it nicely.

I just bought a new car and a few good sources of info are Consumer Reports (pick up the new car issue or you can access online for I think $5 or so per month) and edmunds.com. Since you were just in an accident, safety is probably an important consideration so for whatever cars you are considering check out these sites:

http://www.iihs.org/

http://www.nhtsa.dot.gov/cars/testing/ncap/

One fairly new (I think?) safety feature you may want to get is side airbags which protect you in side impact crashes.

I looked at lots of cars, was very tempted to get an expensive and unreliable Euro car, but in the end I got a Toyota Camry and it is awesome! Very safe, comfy, reliable, smooth ride, has all the features I wanted, and Toyotas have great resale value. I got exactly the car I wanted and got a great deal (I paid $4400 under MSRP and $1600 under invoice). I will tell you what I did; not sure if it works for leasing but it is worth trying. When I knew exactly what I wanted and was ready to buy I emailed several dealers in the area with the exact make, model, color, etc. that I wanted, asked if they had it or could get it, and asked for their best price including ALL charges; within a couple of hours I had responses from several. The dealers in the close-in burbs did not respond; it was the ones a bit further out who did and so I drove 40 minutes and saved thousands (literally - the price I was quoted on the same make/model when I visited the dealer near my house in person was $2000 more than what I paid).

Hope this helps! :)

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Registered: 03-18-2005
Thu, 05-19-2005 - 12:30am

Thank you - that's a great idea about the emails.