Exactly how large was his "stuff"?? Just curious since you said "unreal"! Possibly we could do a poll and see if he was telling the truth! Usually when a man talks about their size (or thickness), it may not be true; although you talked about getting to second base -- did that include touching?? (LOL) Sorry couldn't resist!
Well this is your 3rd date and I wouldn't make too much of it! I don't like when guys state I'm going to be busy for the next 3-4 weeks -- what the heck does that mean? Yeah, he's busy but if he is into you hopefully he will stay in touch (phone/email).
Anyway, just keep stacking em up! It seems this guy may not know what he wants or possibly he is looking for some "quicker" action -- meaning sex now and not willing to wait.
Uh, what's up with the alcohol?? (smile) You had 2 and he had 4, but both seem to be feeling good! He probably needs more than 4 to get drunk! Why are you counting? Do you think possibly he is an alcoholic? Seems like you are still feeling bad about the first date and may be overanalyzing and being more critical. You think?
So him pushing to stay over on only your 3rd date (yeah right he'd sleep on the couch), and talking about the size of his unit (yuck) isn't a red flag to you?
It would be to me but you seem very matter of fact about it...I'm just curious as to why?
I agree this is not a good sign (from my personal experience) but I don't think Sparkle is <> and this is probably why she isn't feeling comfortable with it. Makes total sense to me..
Follow your gut -- I'm getting the impression this guy may not be the one for you! Some of his behavior (talking about his stuff and wanting to spend the night) were not appropriate to me.
I think for most of us, it's nice when we finally meet someone and enjoy their company, and not saying you are settling, but trust your gut. I'm a firm believer that in the initial stages of getting to know someone, feelings of anxiety or confusion are sensors that this situation may NOT be the best one.
While I'm sorry to hear that things ended like this, I'm relieved for you (and your giant heart) that it happened after only three dates and not after six months.
Plus, I think you knew in that giant heart that something like this would be coming with him. All the signs were there.
Congratulations, though, on getting past your shyness and reservations and throwing yourself into the mix -- the NEXT ONE will be better...!! Take care of yourself, darlin' -
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Hi Everyone-
Thanks for your kind words.
Exactly how large was his "stuff"?? Just curious since you said "unreal"! Possibly we could do a poll and see if he was telling the truth! Usually when a man talks about their size (or thickness), it may not be true; although you talked about getting to second base -- did that include touching?? (LOL) Sorry couldn't resist!
Well this is your 3rd date and I wouldn't make too much of it! I don't like when guys state I'm going to be busy for the next 3-4 weeks -- what the heck does that mean? Yeah, he's busy but if he is into you hopefully he will stay in touch (phone/email).
Anyway, just keep stacking em up! It seems this guy may not know what he wants or possibly he is looking for some "quicker" action -- meaning sex now and not willing to wait.
Uh, what's up with the alcohol?? (smile) You had 2 and he had 4, but both seem to be feeling good! He probably needs more than 4 to get drunk! Why are you counting? Do you think possibly he is an alcoholic? Seems like you are still feeling bad about the first date and may be overanalyzing and being more critical. You think?
Hi-
I've dated one alcoholic in the past.
So him pushing to stay over on only your 3rd date (yeah right he'd sleep on the couch), and talking about the size of his unit (yuck) isn't a red flag to you?
It would be to me but you seem very matter of fact about it...I'm just curious as to why?
Sheri
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I agree this is not a good sign (from my personal experience) but I don't think Sparkle is <> and this is probably why she isn't feeling comfortable with it. Makes total sense to me..
Follow your gut -- I'm getting the impression this guy may not be the one for you! Some of his behavior (talking about his stuff and wanting to spend the night) were not appropriate to me.
I think for most of us, it's nice when we finally meet someone and enjoy their company, and not saying you are settling, but trust your gut. I'm a firm believer that in the initial stages of getting to know someone, feelings of anxiety or confusion are sensors that this situation may NOT be the best one.
Yes, you are right.
Sparkle-
While I'm sorry to hear that things ended like this, I'm relieved for you (and your giant heart) that it happened after only three dates and not after six months.
Plus, I think you knew in that giant heart that something like this would be coming with him. All the signs were there.
Congratulations, though, on getting past your shyness and reservations and throwing yourself into the mix -- the NEXT ONE will be better...!! Take care of yourself, darlin' -
p.s. -- can you put up a pic of the kitten...?
Tracy
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