update with the doc
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| Sat, 11-19-2005 - 6:07pm |
Hey,
I just want to start by saying that for those of you who have been following the threads and giving me wonderful advices, I really appreciate it!
So we eventually became intimate... I know it's too soon and some of you advised against it. But it felt right at the moment. He hinted on exclusivity again, and I still didn't give him a straight answer, though in my mind I know that I don't want to see other guys at the moment (I already let the other gentleman know that I have feelings for someone else...) So the next day came, and I expected him to call me (isn't it a "courtesy" for guys to call the day following the first sexual encounter??) Well, I didn't hear from him until the day after... what an emotional mess I was in before he called! I thought that he was blowing me off after he got what he wanted. But he did call two days later and said that he missed me. I said, "really? But you didn't call me" He said that there is a 24hr rule for guys so they don't look too desperate...! I told him that the "rules" don't work for me, because there were moments when I was seriously considering breaking things off with him since I didn't sense that he was serious. He has been calling everyday since. :P I don't like being played like this... and I don't know how serious he is now... maybe he's using the reverse psycology trick on me by telling me about the "rule" (who does that anyway?!), but I guess we girls do such things sometimes too.
Anyway, I think I am less obssessed now, which is a good sign. I'll give him another month or so, and if I still can't tell if he's serious, I'll cut him loose. My interest level has dropped a bit for unknown reasons. But it could be because of this other gentleman... he's a very nice and genuine person and most importantly, showed me that he really cared. He handled my "break-up" pretty professionally. He said he's a bit sad because he was starting to really like me, but he wished me good luck, and hope that I'll email me if things don't work out for me because we never know how future may hold... seeing how this other guy treats me makes me wonder if it's all worth it going the other way. I feel that I gave up a perfectly great guy for someone who might well be a player... but in life we need to take risks.
Well, I am not ready to admit this to the doc yet, but I think I'll take a break from online dating. Two men were already too overwhelming for me, plus I really wanted to see how things will go now. Thanks again for all your advices and comforting words, though I didn't exactly listen to everything (which I kind of regretted). :P
Jess
