Update on last week

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Registered: 12-28-2004
Update on last week
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Thu, 11-10-2005 - 10:12am

Last week, I had posted about someone contacting me through Yahoo. Like the big stooge I am, I signed up on the 7-day free thing Yahoo was offering and responded to this person. To date, he has not contacted me again.

To say the least, I today cancelled my subscription and there was a section where you could tell Yahoo why you were cancelling. That's all I needed. LOL

I wrote Yahoo and suggested that someone in their personals section should write an article on "ghosting" and how rude it is. Just because your behind a computer screen gives a person no reason to be rude. I also told them (as was suggested by someone who responded to my post of last week) that sometimes I wonder if they don't have an employee that sends messages to people just to get people to pay the $20.

Anyway, I let Yahoo have it and I feel better now. I still have my profile up, but no way am I paying any service again. Future contacts will just have to figure out that I'm not a member.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 4:57am

Agreed.

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Registered: 05-28-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 6:34am

"Personally, I would MUCH rather have someone ghost on me than send me a "thanks but no thanks" email."

I agree.....I hate those letters....

I understand "ghosting" when you've only been emailing or had one date, but it does bother me when someone "ghosts" after more than one date.




Edited 11/11/2005 6:39 am ET by kerstynclare
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Registered: 05-23-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 11:11am
I agree with Sheri on the ghosting issue. I don't need someone to tell me why they're not interested in me, if that even IS why someone ghosts, maybe they just had other priorities that had nothing to do with me. Doesn't matter.
I've ghosted on two guys I was only just emailing because I just had too much going on and I wasn't seeing any progress.
I ghosted on the last guy I was seeing after the 3rd date. He was a great guy but I was just not physically attracted to him. I thought because we got along so well that maybe that physical part would grow. It didn't seem to and I didn't think it was fair to keep dating him and during the last date I found myself noticing a few irritating qualities about him that only sealed the deal. I never returned his calls. I'm certainly not proud of that, but what should I have said to him? "I don't think we should see each other anymore because I can't imagine myself ever kissing you"?
Believe me, if the situation were reversed, I wouldn't want to know that.
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Registered: 05-09-2005
Fri, 11-11-2005 - 11:58am

You may fare better with an agency that specializes in hooking you up -- minimum prices begin at $1,000 and go up!! You will not find married men, players, men who make under a certain income bracket, etc. Possibly something for you to consider if you can afford it!!

Be grateful they ghost at the early stages rather than 3 months down the road! Regardless your expectations are way too high (especially from a stranger); just have fun with it!!!

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