Update on last week
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| Thu, 11-10-2005 - 10:12am |
Last week, I had posted about someone contacting me through Yahoo. Like the big stooge I am, I signed up on the 7-day free thing Yahoo was offering and responded to this person. To date, he has not contacted me again.
To say the least, I today cancelled my subscription and there was a section where you could tell Yahoo why you were cancelling. That's all I needed. LOL
I wrote Yahoo and suggested that someone in their personals section should write an article on "ghosting" and how rude it is. Just because your behind a computer screen gives a person no reason to be rude. I also told them (as was suggested by someone who responded to my post of last week) that sometimes I wonder if they don't have an employee that sends messages to people just to get people to pay the $20.
Anyway, I let Yahoo have it and I feel better now. I still have my profile up, but no way am I paying any service again. Future contacts will just have to figure out that I'm not a member.

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Agreed.
"Personally, I would MUCH rather have someone ghost on me than send me a "thanks but no thanks" email."
I agree.....I hate those letters....
I understand "ghosting" when you've only been emailing or had one date, but it does bother me when someone "ghosts" after more than one date.
Edited 11/11/2005 6:39 am ET by kerstynclare
I've ghosted on two guys I was only just emailing because I just had too much going on and I wasn't seeing any progress.
I ghosted on the last guy I was seeing after the 3rd date. He was a great guy but I was just not physically attracted to him. I thought because we got along so well that maybe that physical part would grow. It didn't seem to and I didn't think it was fair to keep dating him and during the last date I found myself noticing a few irritating qualities about him that only sealed the deal. I never returned his calls. I'm certainly not proud of that, but what should I have said to him? "I don't think we should see each other anymore because I can't imagine myself ever kissing you"?
Believe me, if the situation were reversed, I wouldn't want to know that.
You may fare better with an agency that specializes in hooking you up -- minimum prices begin at $1,000 and go up!! You will not find married men, players, men who make under a certain income bracket, etc. Possibly something for you to consider if you can afford it!!
Be grateful they ghost at the early stages rather than 3 months down the road! Regardless your expectations are way too high (especially from a stranger); just have fun with it!!!
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