Update on Lloyd

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Registered: 06-15-2003
Update on Lloyd
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Sun, 08-24-2003 - 8:07pm
Hi all,

Well I just told Lloyd that we need to "just be friends". I knew he didn't want to be tied down or anything and to keep things fairly casual - but he went out on a date with someone else last night and I've come to realize I can't handle dating someone who is still dating other people. I sort of knew this would happen, and I enjoyed being with Lloyd, but now that he's dating someone else too, its time for us to just be friends. That is if he wants to.

This certainly beat the "2 dates and leave ya" rut I was experiencing before Lloyd. Now I think I'll take a little break and try and lose the other 20lbs I need to lose, and then dive into this dating scene again in another couple of months.

And don't worry I'll still be around, even if its just to answer the silly "fun stuff" questions! ;o)

Gabi

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gendress
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 8:47pm
Hugs Gabi. I'm sorry things didn't work out for you and Lloyd, but its good that you realized what you want and its not someone who is dating someone else! I think I'd be the same way, so I totally don't blame you. I do hope that you continue to stick around as your advice is always appreciated!

Lindsay

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In reply to: gendress
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 10:17pm
(((((GABI))))))))

Sorry to hear he just up and decided to date someone esle. I know you two werent exclusive, but still. He could have let you know he was not only dating you. That would have been nice to know. Glad you took it so well. Goodluck with dating and just get back in there. Its still fun. The good and the bad. hugs.

Gail:)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: gendress
Mon, 08-25-2003 - 11:55am
It sounds like you made the right decision for you and that next time you will be a lot clearer with yourself about what you want. I knew from your description that you were telling yourself casual sex and dating were fine, but that you were not being true to yourself. I think it is fine that he is dating other people, and I think you feel the same way too. I am sorry you are disappointed but I know this is a blessing in disguise as far as how you will evaluate future relationships. My advice - no contact with Lloyd until and unless you have no romantic feelings for him - I am sure you, like me, have plenty of "friends" and do not need a new one especially one who will tell you about other women he is dating.
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Registered: 06-15-2003
In reply to: gendress
Mon, 08-25-2003 - 12:25pm
Well first of all - who says I'm disappointed? Its not like I wasn't expecting this to happen eventually. Now that I know he has no romantic feelings for me (can't call lust romantic), any romantic feelings I had are gone now too. For me if its not mutual, its not real. I have no problems switching from an intimate relationship to a platonic one - I've done in the past. But guys seem to have a problem with it. So the ball is in Lloyd's court if we stay friends or not. Either way I enjoyed the time we had together and don't regret a second of it.

Gabi