Update to mentioned us meeting...

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Update to mentioned us meeting...
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 7:26am

Edited 5/17/2005 7:31 am ET ET by kathy748


Edited 5/18/2005 5:38 pm ET ET by kathy748
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 8:18am

Have you seen his photo?


Unless there are other circumstances indicating a tight match - I generally will not meet without a picture. And I have $10 that say's he never posts one.

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 10:07am

HI Kathy,

I am glad he responded, and when men get busy, sometimes they prioritize differently and it feels, to us, that we are not high on that list...but we Are. So, you are done..he knows that you want to go and where to contact you. Men are like toothpaste in a tube, if you squeeze one end, they will run in the opposite direction (sorry LG and u guys, this is not 'dissing, just trying to understand! :), so let it go and go on about your biz and he will turn up, when he can. I am sure it will be soon...IF he does not feel pressure from you.

He will call you, just give him time.

Truly,
Cupcake

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 2:47pm

I think you've done enough to show him you're interested. If he is equally interested, he will let you know about meeting.

I just graduated law school and was putting in long hours and used the "I'm really busy" excuse ALOT. But let me tell you, when there was a guy I was more than curious about I miraculously found time to meet.

I'd put this one on the back burner and concentrate on someone showing a bit more interest in you.

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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 4:10pm
So what you're saying is that I shouldn't email him again, I should wait until he contacts me and if he doesn't, move on? I am waiting to see if he posts a pic. Who knows if he will or not.
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Tue, 05-17-2005 - 9:15pm

That's exactly what I'm saying. This guy knows you're interested. If he's interested, he'll email back about meeting.

Perhaps I'm misreading it, but it sounds like you are already doing a lot of "chasing" after him already and you haven't even met yet. That's an awful lot of effort for someone that 1) you've never met and 2) you don't even know what he looks like. I'd let this one go. Maybe he'll surprise you and find some free time, but don't sit by the computer waiting for that to happen.

Trust me, there are guys online that WILL want to meet you! Not only that, they will suggest it and follow up on it. Spend your time and energy on those guys- not on this one.

Good Luck...

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Wed, 05-18-2005 - 6:25am
I appreciate the advice but I'm not "chasing" him. I'm going to wait to see if he gets back to me. If he doesn't, that's fine with me. There's more guys waiting. I don't know him well enough anyway. Apparently you're taking what I said out of context. He did post a pic today too.


Edited 5/18/2005 5:20 pm ET ET by kathy748
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Wed, 05-18-2005 - 10:50am

You asked for opinions on what you should do. I offered mine- I'm sorry you didn't like it. To each his own.

But for the record, your original post on 5/13/05 said: <>

The man sends you multiple emails but NEVER mentions meeting in any of them but the 1st one. He then tells you he likes to go out for coffee but NEVER asks you to go with him. YOU then bring up meeting again, and he gives you the "I'm really busy line". He knows what his schedule is, he knows he's working 12 hours a day until such and such a day. He could have suggested to meet on Day X, AFTER he's done working his shift. He didn't. And then you wanted to know how long until you should wait to ask him AGAIN if you DON'T hear from him. Sorry, but in my book, that sounds an awful lot like "chasing."

I think you've probably taken what I've said too personally. I apologize if I have hurt your feelings. His "HJNITY" isn't about YOU, it's about HIM. Which is why I suggested putting this guy aside and finding someone that is excited about meeting you and actually makes plans to do so.

Glad he posted a picture. Hope you liked what you saw.