An update on my adventures in OLD

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An update on my adventures in OLD
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Sun, 05-01-2005 - 9:54pm

Had my 1001st coffee meeting today. Actually I have no idea how many I've had over the years but it's definitely got to be above 100.

Really, really nice guy...but I'd say, oh, about 75-100 pounds more than his picture. He mentioned on the phone that he'd gained some weight since it was taken, but he was really big. I don't mind guys with a few extra pounds, even prefer it, but this was way over that.

But I really enjoyed talking to him, once I got over the shock...and I agreed to go out with him again. Argh...why do I do this to myself? I will have to give him the LJBF speech of course. I have a veritable *stable* of guy friends I met online, and I enjoy each and every one of them...but I don't WANT another friend, I want a bf!

In other news, the chef cancelled what would have been date #6 yesterday afternoon (so last minute), claiming a combination of low funds (to which I said, I really don't care what we do, it's seeing you that counts) and a bit of a funk (due to his job search coming slowly) that he didn't want to "inflict" on me. Yet he wanted to chat on the phone and asked me to call him last night if I felt like it (I didn't...I'm thinking, you want to talk on the phone, but you can't motivate yourself to spend an hour or two with me? Give me a break). Whether it's HJNTIY or legit, I'm not impressed by the last minute cancellation, so his stock has fallen a bit. But he's behaved like a real gentleman up to now, and I like him, so I'll give him another shot...we'll see if he manages to redeem himself.

There's another guy on match I'm emailing with who seems like a VERY good fit on paper, but I'm not sure about the attraction issue from his photos. Guess I'll have to meet him and see what happens ;-).

Sheri

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Sun, 05-01-2005 - 10:03pm
that usually happens..the ones u click with emotionally r the ones ure not that attracted to..The ones that sound attractive end up being 50 pounds heavier or 30 years older then they first indicated..aaaaaaaaah... im not a fan of online dating..its kinda fun but when it turns into feelings its not fun at all : (
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Sun, 05-01-2005 - 10:20pm

Sorry to hear about that cancellation but you truly deserve to be with a man with his career/job in check in my opinion.

 
 
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Sun, 05-01-2005 - 10:26pm

Oh, the 1001 was intentional...it sure *feels* like that many, even though it's probably "just" somewhere in the low 100s ;-).

And yes, I agree about the chef...my heart definitely sank a few dates ago when he told me about the job he *thought* he was going to be starting shortly when we met falling through...I was like, oh no, not *another* guy in "transition", I can't deal!!! We'll see what happens...but I'm definitely not assuming things will progress.

Yep, spring and summer are usually good times of the year to be meeting people...I'm trying to keep my optimistic spirit intact ;-).

Sheri